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Its Time for Anal Orgasms!


By: Lee & Jessica, Owners of DiskretAdultLife,

No matter what your gender is, the anus is part of your sexual apparatuses, and believe it or not, they are all the same. Male, Female, trans… it doesn’t matter who you are, you have a rectum; and it can bring you pleasure. We hear it all the time; are anal orgasms real? How can I get an anal orgasm? It might sound like this mythical thing, everyone knows you can achieve orgasm through vaginal sex and stimulating the penis… but it’s not as obvious when talking about anal stimulation. Of course, you can receive pleasure from anal play, but can you actually obtain an anal orgasm?!

We have a lot of experience in this area and consulted sexologist about it. Let us whip open the curtain and reveal this so called “anal orgasm” in all it’s entirety. We will explain in great detail what an anal orgasm is, and how to achieve it for both men and women. So read on, and don’t miss out on this incredible experience that comes with anal orgasms.anal orgasm

What is an Anal Orgasm:

Yes, anal orgasms are a real thing! Women can receive an anal orgasm from stimulating the anus which stimulates the erectile tissue in the lower part of the vagina and the G-spot. In men, vigorous perineal stimulation can be felt in two muscles around the anus entrance and the prostate.

For men, it is said an anal orgasm can be 33% more intense than a normal orgasm from stimulating the penis. Stimulation of the anus, and prostate can engage pelvic and pudendal nerves, which are related closely to the orgasmic response. In other words, you have tons of nerves in and around the anus and rectum. This is similar for women since the anus is nearly identical as men, just without the prostate stimulation.

The Science Behind the Anal Orgasm:

If you are really interested in how the anal orgasms works, it starts with the pudendal nerve. Stimulating the anus and rectum also stimulates the pudendal nerve, the main nerve of the perineum. It carries sensation from the external genitals, and the skin around the anus, on both men and women. It also supplies various motor skills for the pelvic muscles. Stimulating this is said to be the most central way to orgasm. This is because the pelvic nerve connects the cervix, uterus, and prostate to the brain. It has also been shown that the vagus nerve is another pathway for orgasm, but it is less understood.

How Can I get an Anal Orgasm?

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  • Dual Stimulation for Anal Orgasms:

Although some women can orgasm solely from anal penetration and anal stimulation, it is more likely that a combination of stimulations will do the trick. Women have 3 main ways to achieve an orgasm. The first is through clitoral stimulation, which gives a powerful orgasm said to make the brain and skin tingle. The second is vaginal penetration, which is the most common orgasm it gives women a whole body, vaginal throbbing, orgasm. The last form of stimulation is through anal orgasms, which gives an extremely intense feeling of pleasure that stems from the core of your butt plug in hand

Although all of these different types of orgasms can be achieved on their lonesome, most women reported through a blending of stimulation yields the best results. Either double penetration in vagina and anus, or anus with clitoral play. You have a lot of possibilities to explore and after experiencing them all, you will hone in your favorites and “go-to” positions. Don’t forget if you have a partner, it makes dual stimulation a lot easier, with either and extra hand or penis!

  • How To Use Anal Beads:

It might be common sense, but the easiest way for an anal orgasm is by using a anal sex toy. This is because you can keep your hands cleaner. Plus the vibration or “fullness” that anal beads and butt plugs provide cannot be experienced with one’s finger. Anal beads consist of round spheres attached to each other by a form of a string. As you insert these and remove these from the anus they provide the user pleasure. Lots, and lots of pleasure to be more specific.

Majority of the pleasure with anal beads come from being inserted and removed across two ringed sphincter muscles in your anus. This brings a serious amount of pleasure as each anal bead passes through this muscle. You can time removing and inserting these as you orgasm!

  • How To Use Anal Beads On A Man

So, you want to try out anal beads on your man, or give them a go for yourself? The single most unique thing about males when it comes to anal orgasms; is that they have the ability to stimulate the prostate. Male prostate stimulation can lead to the most intense anal orgasms he has ever had! According to a massive survey throughout the industry, a prostate orgasm is said to be 33% more intense than your standard orgasm from stimulating the penis.

What’s the best way to stimulate the male prostate? The male prostate is located 3-4 inches inside the anus facing forward towards the perineum. The prostate is located at the base of the urethra and by massaging it or vibration being applied to it, gives the user the sensation you receive just before climaxing.

If you’re wondering how to use anal beads on a man, work the beads over the prostate! Its that simple… If it’s on yourself this is simple as you can really feel as you hit the “sweet spot”. Gently glide over it with different size beads until you receive the ultimate anal orgasm!

Now if your stimulating a male partner. It becomes a little more difficult. You need to have open communication. Have him give constant feedback the first couple times. Even a simple “left” or “1 inch up” is all you need to find the spot. Another way to learn exactly where it is, would be feel it with your finger first. This will give you a good “sense of direction” when you later have a anal sex toy in hand.

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  • How To Use Anal Beads On A Woman

If you have a female partner or curious about how to use anal beads on a woman; I suggest three different methods.

The first method for using anal beads on a woman is for intense foreplay. Lube the beads and her butt up first. Then gently slide the beads in before you have any other form of penetration. Let her focus solely on the beads and the stimulation they are bringing. This is amazing foreplay before penetrative sex, oral sex, or continued foreplay. She might not receive an anal orgasm from this, since it is meant to build the anticipation. But it is extremely pleasurable none the less.

The second method when asking yourself how to use anal beads on a woman would be to slowly remove them just before climax. This works great for men too! Have them in during penetrative sex or solo masturbation and just as you’re about to orgasm…. Slowly remove them one-by-one and let the anal bead sensation cause you to climax. Almost like “edge play” get yourself very close to the edge then let the beads be what send you over the top!

The last method for using anal beads on a woman would be to use them throughout the entire experience. Insert them slowly early on and then throughout your masturbation session or penetrative sex, insert and remove them as needed. Whenever you are looking for that extra boost in pleasure, simply pull a bead out or insert another one in. You can use them throughout the entire session that will help lead to explosive anal orgasms!

The best anal beads for maximum features and quality are the Cinco beads shown below. Click the image to check out all they offer!

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  • How To Use Butt Plugs

Butt plugs are slightly different than anal beads. Butt plugs typically are a blub that stays in the rectum for up to a few hours. These help stimulate the anus during sex or masturbation and don’t even require a hand since the anus provides the “gripping” power to hold it in. As with any anal sex toy, make sure it has a “stopper” on one end. This should be larger than the bulb and prevent the anal sex toy from slipping all the way in.

  • Butt Plugs for Men

Gender specific butt plugs are a tricky one. There are butt plugs for men and butt plugs for women specifically. But for the most part a butt plug can be used by either gender. The only thing on a butt plug for men that makes it specific to men is if it’s designed for prostate stimulation.

When I think of the best butt plugs for men the Duke by Fun Factory is the first thing that pops to mind. This butt plug has a very unique design that flexes, twists, and turns to the every contour of the male anatomy. Designed for the ultimate anal orgasm without using your hands! Simply slide the Duke in, turn the vibrator on, and sit back to enjoy the huge prostate waves of pleasure. All without lifting a finger!

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  • Butt Plugs for Women

Not to stereotype, but when I think of butt plugs for women the first thing that comes to mind are the more aesthetically pleasing butt plugs. The ones made from 100% stainless steel or perhaps glass. Not only do they slide in with ease, they look amazing and feel amazing too! Perfect for giving anal stimulation and that feeling of “fullness”. Women can wear them during penetrative sex, solo masturbation, mutual masturbation, around the house, and even out in public as a naughty yet discreet experience!

Check out the glass butt plug by Diskret. Limited in quantity these rare and super sexy plugs are infused with real 24k gold. I had the pleasure of watching a true artist make these by hand. While he heated the glass to a glowing red state and turning it into a “gummy” consistency; he then dripped real 24k gold into the bottom as he swirled it into its final shape. Talk about a conversation piece, something you will want to show your partner and feel super sexy wearing!

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Another great butt plug for women would be the Njoy Pure Plug Medium. This butt plug is made from 100% stainless steel. It looks classy, sexy, chic, and of course pleasurable. This butt plug was designed for anal orgasms and will help you get off through mind blowing waves of pleasure. The slim handle makes it easy to insert and remove. Plus the tapered head is nearly frictionless upon entry with just a dab of lube.

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  • Other Anal Sex Toys:

There are a variety of other sex toys that can be used for anal orgasms. These include dildos and vibrators.  A lot of sex toys designed for g-spot simulation work well for p-spot stimulation as well.

The natural slight curve they have can be pointed up towards the prostate for easy stimulation. Don’t use any sex toys in your butt that don’t have a flared base or shape to prevent it from getting lost.

The most common materials for anal sex toys are silicone, glass, stainless steel, treated wood, and

ceramics. You can use anti-bacterial soap and hot water to clean it, or boil it for a few minutes to completely remove any bacteria. Vibrators should be sprayed with a 10% bleach solution to clean after anal orgasms.

  • Anal Play Safety:

When trying to have an anal orgasm, a few things are very important to keep in mind. The first is use a lot of lube. I mean a lot! The anus does not have the natural lubrication that a vagina does, and you can feel discomfort, pain, or injury if not lubed and stretched properly.

If you are not used to anal play, start with something small. Either a slim dildo, small butt plug, anal beads, or your finger. Start small and when it feels easy and comfortable slowly make your way up in size. If something hurts, stop immediately.

Lastly, if you are trying to achieve anal orgasms with a partner, never mix and match your anal toys with your partner. Each body has bacteria specific to it, especially in the anus. So, do not transfer a sex toy that was in your butt, to your partners. If you absolutely must, put a condom on it each time.

  • Set the Mood for Anal Orgasms!

You have heard it from us before, and we will keep saying it because of it’s important. To achieve pleasure, the environment does not need to be ideal conditions. But to achieve multiple mind blowing, eye rolling orgasms, you need to feel most comfortable. The best way to set the mood for anal orgasm is really up to you. Whatever makes you relax the most is the most ideal. Make sure you have plenty of time, turn your phones off, lock the doors, dim the lights, a warm bath, a hot shower, or perhaps a yoga session. These are all just examples, but you get the picture. Relax the body, relax the mind to have a anal orgasm!

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  • Your Trying to Hard!

Yes, believe it or not, trying to hard for an anal orgasm can totally ruin it. You don’t want to focus solely on getting an anal orgasm like it is the ultimate goal (even if it is). Just focus on relaxing and receiving the pleasure. If you try and try but don’t get an anal orgasm, its okay! Just continue enjoying the pleasure that anal play provides and eventually you will work your way up to it.

  • Don’t Forget Anal Sex for Anal Orgasms!

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Of course, the ultimate penetrative act to bring yourself to anal orgasm can consist of anal sex. If you are receiving it, make sure your have plenty of lube, and prepare to be filled like never before. Either you or your partner can add clitoral stimulation to have a well-balanced orgasm. You can either have your partner penetrate vaginally while using an anal sex toy at the same time for double penetration too.

The best approach to anal sex for a anal orgasm is slow, controlled, and rhythmic. Make sure you are relaxed and have plenty of time for foreplay. An orgasm or two before anal sex can make it easier to achieve an anal orgasm. If you are worried your partner has too large of penis, start with small anal beads or butt plugs and work your way up to his size.

The most important aspect with your partner is communication. Make sure you are both on the same page. If you feel discomfort let them know, if you feel extreme pleasure, let them know. This communication will help develop your partner into fully understanding what makes you orgasm the easiest. Anal sex might be uncomfortable at first, but it should not be painful or cause any bleeding.

Anal Orgasm Wrap-Up:


          In the end, you need to find what works for you to have an anal orgasm. A lot of tools and tricks to help are explained above, but ultimately you need to learn from experience with your own body. Become comfortable with anal masturbation before moving into it with a partner. Its important to pay attention to your body no matter how much you might want to have an anal orgasm.

If you haven’t tried anal stimulation, you’re in for a treat! Not everyone finds it incredible but it’s something you should experience and try for the sole purpose of so many individuals find extreme pleasure in it. However, not everyone is able to achieve an anal orgasm and some people will never be comfortable with butt play. But you will never know until you try!

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