23 Intoxicating BDSM Toys Now Avaliable!

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By: Jessica & Lee Owners of DiskretAdultLife

Impact Play / Sensory Play / Restraints / Harnesses / Sex Toys / Safety

Weather you’re into all things kink or more on the vanilla side of things; BDSM toys, S&M, and bondage can all play a big role in improving our sex lives. These are different forms of sexual experiences, but overlap in one way or another, so we will cover them as one. It all ties into the overall sex toy scene and experience. It’s sad to say but the kink scene didn’t really hit main stream until lately with the massive hit of “50 Shades of Grey” movie series, music videos, and books. Although kink, bondage, and BDSM toys have been around since the 1940’s, apparently more people are now open to it as the movie series and pop culture scene has made it more socially acceptable or should I say “less taboo”.

A massive poll in America has shown 80% of couples have partaken in some form of light bondage. Now that society is opening up to the BDSM scene they are really understanding the pleasure it can bring! There is a common myth that BDSM toys are all about extreme whips and chains. Like vanilla or non-kink sex, individual preferences vary from silk blindfolds to extreme pursuits. Having been in the sex industry for years and seeing about every BDSM toy available (with the pleasure of using most) I will go over the highest rated and most pleasurable 23 BDSM toys that are a must-have for any kink enthusiast!

Here is how I decided the best 23 BDSM toys from the average ones:
    • How practical is the toy (how user friendly is it?)
    • The price of the BDSM toys
    • The durability and robustness of the sex toy
    • My personal experience and review of it
    • The overall kink community reviews
    • The quality of material
    • Manufacturing details
    • Safety of the BDSM toys (material / design)
    • The features of the sex toy

These are topics I discussed, researched, and reviewed before making my decision on the top 23 BDSM toys available in 2019. Everyone is interested in different levels of kink and this list covers a lot of them. So, if you’re just starting out it could be a master list to work your way towards; or if your experienced but dissatisfied with your current products, look to these as quality replacements.

BDSM Toys Safety:

For those of you who enjoy a bit of pain, impact play can be quite exhilarating. But before the fun can begin, here are a few quick notes on safety:

There are “red zones” that should be avoided at all times. These include joints and bony areas like the head, neck, and spine. It’s also very easy to hit and even fracture the tailbone when aiming for the butt cheeks, so please be careful while playing kids.

No matter where you hit the general rule of thumb is start softly and work your way up in intensity. Include a safe word or stop lights method (green, yellow, or red) will help with the communication aspect.

BDSM Toys IMPACT Play:

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BDSM Whips:

Whips can be extremely pleasurable and fun. I can’t stress enough how it takes a bit of practice to really understand this tool in your hand, so please be careful! It is very easy to break the skin or hit an eye with a whip due to the individual strands that make it up.

So, before you start wielding your whip like Indiana Jones be sure you take the time to learn and develop a skill for holding and using it. I practiced hitting the bed or stuffed animals to start to get the feel for it. You can perfect your aim by practicing on a pill or towel too. Once you can hit your target every time, test on smaller and smaller objects.

I highly suggest the Lelo Suede Whip. Out of most BDSM toys this whip is really an anomaly… Built of quality material, perfect ergonomic grip, and looks stylish; its been my favorite whip for years. You can caress or ignite your partners naked skin with this whip made from high-quality supple sheepskin suede and a beautifully crafted acrylic and metal handle.

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Paddles:

Paddles are a more safe way to engage in impact play than whips. They don’t have that ability to easily break the skin or poke an eye out. You tend to have a lot more control with the stout handles and short stiff paddles. Although, like the whips you can get a “stinging” strike that sounds much worse than felt. Sometimes it’s the noise of the BDSM toys being used that are as big a turn on as the actual feeling itself.

I have tried and gone through a lot of paddles. While I must admit I enjoy the paddle use on the rougher side, I couldn’t believe how many I went through. Paddle after paddle broke, degraded or became flimsy in the hand. Most paddles only would last a session or two and were made from low-quality material, I guess that’s what I get when trying to save a buck or two. I switched over to an all-black leather and stain paddle. This red & black paddle looks as good as it feels. Plus, it hasn’t broken yet which is a plus!

sexy paddle

Floggers:

A flogger is a sadistic tool of torment comprising of a handle and multiple lengthy tails, also known as falls. There are two common sensations associated with impact play and spanking. One is the “stinging” sensations and the other is the “thuddy” impact sensation. Usually the sting is loud but not felt as much as a deeper thud is. When it comes to BDSM toys and floggers in particular the more tails the flogger has, and the wider they are, the greater the thud. In other words, a light flogger, with a few very narrow tails will deliver a more satisfying sting sensation. I lean more towards the sting than the thud and I recommend new comers to flogging lean this way as well. The large heavy floggers I don’t recommend until you have a few years of experience and know exactly where you can deliver each thud.

Because I lean more towards the sting, I really enjoy the Bijoux leather flogger. It’s amazing for sensation play by caressing the tails along the skin. Or you can punish your partner with the pleasure of stinging blows. The sound turns her on as much as the nip it delivers to her butt. This light weight flogger has a decent amount of tails but they are on the more narrow side. I just love the quality made from high strength genuine leather with a solid metal ring.

57528 Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE leather Flogger-BLACK

Sex Crop:

Sex crops are a very important tool to have in any BDSM toys collection. Similar to whips, they have a long straight rod with a small paddle on the end. These are great for spanking and impact play with your lover. I’ve dealt with low quality crops in past and usually they are very flimsy with no ability to give a solid snap on your partners butt. There are a couple good options but I like this one because it has a real leather paddle on the end and quality rod. The handle is easy to use giving you better control. Plus it has a loop that comes in handy when you need both hands… just hang it around your wrist.

Sleek and sexy, the Ruff-ined Black Leather Sex Crop is a classic that will remain part of your bedroom fun for years to come!

sex crop

BDSM Toys Sensory Play:

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Pinwheels:

Ahhh… the glorious pinwheel. I must admit as many BDSM toys I’ve tried in my many years, I did not try a pinwheel until recently… I felt like I found a new jewel to add to my BDSM collection! It took my sensory play to a whole new level! I started with a few plastic pinwheels that broke, more likely due to me not storing them with care than actually during use. I don’t know about you, but I throw my pinwheel in a drawer or box with a bunch of other sex toys. It does get beat up, so I went to a metal pinwheel. Not the easiest to find but here is the one I use, and it is really nice quality. I suggest tying your partner up and blindfolding them to really heighten the experience! This pin roller is all metal and uses 7 wheels to cover more surface area rather than the single wheels.

sex pinwheel

Blindfolds:

The blindfold is the most basic tool in any BDSM toys collector box. Its almost a necessity in my mind. Blocking out your vision heights all your other senses… The sound of the whip cracking, the cold prickly pinwheel moving across your back, the sex toy being inserted… You get the picture, when you can’t see what your partner is doing the anticipation becomes as much a turn on as the act itself! Everything feels more intense and the orgasms are on another level!

When it comes to blindfolds I just prefer something comfortable that doesn’t fall down. I’ve tried to make my own in the past… an old tie or cut up piece of silk. But they don’t conform to your face and are difficult to tie and untie. Nothing seems to kill the buzz quicker than when in the middle of a BDSM session the tie falls down exposing exactly what your partner was planning next.

sex blindfold

Feathers:

Feathers are a great sensory play sex toy. Blindfold your partner and run a feather up and down their back, neck, and genitals. The anticipation and tickling sensation will take your breath away. The best part about this Tantra Feather from Lelo is that it has huge down feathers bunched up so you can cover a lot of surface area. Plus the feathers although fragile don’t fall out of the grip. I recommend this for a sexy gift to your partner. It looks amazing and is presented in a stunning outer box decorated with beautiful imagery. The inner packaging includes black gift box ideal for storage with a tissue enveloping each piece.

tantra feather

Nipple Clamps:

Both fun and sexy these BDSM toys are great for any lady looking to spice up her sexy lingerie or harness. These pearl nipple tassels are my favorite, easy to use and super sexy. They are faux pearl droplets featured on chrome plated tweezer nipple clamps. Providing a great look and of course intense nipple pleasure. The silver chain tassels are complemented with beautiful large round pearls.

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Sexy Masks:

Want to boost your overall kink look? Want to show your partner your serious about impressing them and turning them on? When talking BDSM toys the sex masks get over looked, but such a simple and relatively inexpensive product can change the entire mood and feel of the night. Sexy, classy, elegant but at the same time badass, kinky, and naughty. Have it both ways with these beautiful masks by Bijoux.

sexy mask

BDSM Toys Restraints:

sexy mask

Handcuffs:

No BDSM toy collection is complete with out a quality set of handcuffs! Just imagine handcuffing your partner, throwing a blindfold on them and slowly teasing them into complete ecstasy. Now that is the start to a long and pleasurable night. Although you have hundreds of BDSM toys on the market when it comes to handcuffs, I personally prefer some that both look and are designed for with kink and sexual play in mind. Cold hard steel that cops use to lock up prisoners might be your thing, however not for me. I enjoy these leather and velvet cuffs stitched in a diamond pattern that strap around your lovers wrists. The chrome accents on the buckle and rings scream kink, desire, and pleasure!

kinky handcuffs

Gag Balls:

Gag balls are one of my favorite BDSM toys. Also, were one of the first things I added to my kink accessories collection. While gag balls are offered by just about every retailer, they seem to offer them in every type of material as well. You can find plastic, silicone, rubber… you name it. I found the silicone and rubber ones left a bad taste in my mouth. The plastic ones worked best for me and having a gag ball from solid material was uncomfortable. I like the ability to breathe some through my mouth if necessary. Especially if you’re in an awkward position where it might be tough to breath from your nose.

So, I landed on this 2” plastic gag ball with holes to make it breathable. The two inches is small enough that it doesn’t cause jaw pain after extended amounts of time. The straps on this gag ball are adjustable and leather, durable enough to take a pounding (no pun intended).

breathable gag ball

Bondage Ropes:

Bondage ropes are the ultimate “go-to” for any kinky couple! There is nothing sexier than tying up your partner to have your way with them! Not to mention it’s a huge turn on for them as you slowly tie each knot binding them in new and exciting ways. I would say bondage ropes are a must for any couple looking to spice things up in the bedroom. Now I must admit, I used to be a little cheap and try fashioning my own out of “household” rope or ties. These don’t work… so don’t waste your time. They can’t be tied tight, they itch, and are totally uncomfortable for the person tied up. Not to mention legit bondage ropes really don’t cost that much. I suggest these silk bondage ropes. The silk feels amazing, they tie and hold, plus are easy on the wallet. I love they come with 6 foot long ropes giving you plenty of length for their hands and feet!

silky bondage ropes

Silicone Rope:

If you want rope that doesn’t burn the skin, is completely comfortable, and has some flex in it I would check out silicone ropes. Not easy to find, but a genius idea! I really enjoy silicone rope because you can tie up your partner, but they have enough flex to let your partner stabilize and find a comfortable position. It doesn’t completely lock them in place, so no need to untie and retie if they are uncomfortable or want to move slightly. These buttery-soft silicone ropes work wonders in the bondage world!

silicone rope

BDSM Toys Harnesses:

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Strap-on Pegging:

If you and your partner are bold enough to try it, strap-on pegging is a great way to reach new heights of pleasure and excitement in the bedroom. It brings you closer to your partner and allows for some role reversal to take place. My partner and I have tried a lot of harnesses to our disappoint most BDSM toys like this fail to stay in place and are very awkward to use. However, the Tomboi Harness is made from extremely soft flexible (under armor like) material. It has an athletic cut, no straps, no clips, no chafing, and allows for immense control of the dildo.

The Five Jules is the perfect dildo for the Tomboi Harness. This BDSM toy was designed specifically for the harness. So, it fits perfect, comes in 3 sizes and 3 colors. Not to mention has a slight curve built for p-spot stimulation.

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Harnesses:

Harnesses built more for women than men, can be extremely sexy and a great accessory for any BDSM toy collection. My partner really enjoys the Bijoux series because they are made from 100% vegan leather and hypoallergenic. They are soft and flexible but very durable. My partners skin is a bit on the sensitive side, and these are comfortable to wear, don’t itch, and don’t cause her any rashes. They are made from high quality leather with metal studded rings. Usually one size fits all but there are extender straps for some included that allow for larger sizes. They claim they can be worn over clothing, but my partner typically has no clothing on except this when its go time! These mix a sense of class, style, and elegance with your kinky desires.

I-Harness Multi-Way Body Harness Bijoux H-Harness cross harness

Sex Swings:

Does your BDSM toy collection include a sex swing? These kind of BDSM toys require a rather large investment but allow for you and a partner to get extremely creative. I hang mine over the bed which allows for any falls or mis-balances to be caught by a big fully pillow. But it does limit you on some standing positions. Sex swings are a tricky thing… I’ve tried around 5-10 models in my lifetime and to be honest; I don’t say this a whole lot… But the cheaper models have really proven to be just as good as the extremely expensive ones. Maybe they straps aren’t quite as comfortable but as long as it holds you they really are all very similar. You have two main styles, the straps and the rather large chair. If you are even semi flexible I suggest the straps as the chair style really limits the positions you can try.

The sex swing for me was something I used a couple times a year… not everyday so if you plan on using it every week maybe the higher end models will do the trick for you. But the sex swing listed here is my favorite. It’s great for beginners to advanced users, has quality straps and lasted me this past year. Plus, its under 120 bucks which the higher end ones land you in the 350 dollar range. I highly recommend it to new users to test and see if they enjoy it before purchasing the 350-dollar ones.

sex swing

BDSM Toys for Sex:

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Wands:

I know what your thinking… Wands are a sex toy not specific to BDSM toys. This is true, however I don’t think any BDSM collection is complete without a few sex toys and a wand is one of them! Picture this, you tie your partner up and blindfold them. Perhaps you then use some impact play tools or sensory tools like flogger or pinwheel. Now both of you are extremely turned on and the long lasting foreplay has built up to this moment… Now what? If you want to make it last and don’t engage in penetrative sex perhaps you want to move on to a sex toy to start the stimulation process. Well the Wands are perfect external (or internal with attachments) sex toys to start delivering that pleasurable sensations to her clitoris. They work great during penetrative sex too so don’t forget that aspect of it!

I have tried a couple wands that are very comparable, but I always lean towards the Le Wand. Couple of reasons why… the look is astonishing with the pure white and rose gold accents. It’s a pleasure to show my partner before using it on them. Plus, it has the most power and longest lasting charge I have come across. Along with that it has 4 different attachments and two different textured covers you can add to it. Some of the attachments work great for penetrative sex not just external too!

Le Wand

Masturbation Sleeves:

There is nothing sexier for a man than being tied up while your partner uses a masturbation sleeve on you. Helpless and completely out of your control… Watch as your partner slides the sleeve up and down. Talk about a huge turn-on and great foreplay! I enjoy the Pulse 3 duo for this. It can be left on the base of the shaft and the person in control can use the remote to change the vibration patterns and intensity. Make him beg for the ability to finish in the sleeve… that control can be in the palm of your hand!

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Vibrators:

Everyone always asks me… Once your partner is tied up what’s your favorite vibrator BDSM toy to use on them? While I must say my typical “go-to” would be a wand, every now and then I change it up with a vibrator. Keeping the surprises coming is all part of the fun and game, right? I love the Tango by We-Vibe. It is very small so if my partner is tied up, I can maneuver it where I need to. Plus, the Tango by W-Vibe has huge power for its size, great for clitoral or tip of the penis stimulation. The rumbling vibes both shock my partner and please them at the same time!

We Vibe Tango, sex toys for lesbians

Butt Plugs:

BDSM Butt Plugs… what’s the best out there? I can’t get over the look of the 100% stainless steel. It has a mystique and badass look to it… It can’t be matched by anything else I’ve seen. Plus, the BDSM toy world is full of stainless steel and leather so why not the perfect stainless-steel butt plug that provides immense pleasure! I slide the frictionless, perfectly smooth plug in before the games even start! It adds an unexpected sense of foreplay to the dominatrix and if you have a spare, slide one in the submissive too! Silicone doesn’t have the same look and feel as the weight behind the Njoy Pure Plug. Also, the size is great for beginners to intermediate anal play users!

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Cock Rings:

BDSM cock rings are not in your typical BDSM toys collection. However, one I think fits perfectly. It’s a cock ring with a butt plug that comes in satin black. It has two stretchy silicone loops, one for his shaft the other for his balls. Putting this constriction on his balls and shaft not only make him extra hard, they make him last much longer too. With each penetrating thrust the cock ring will pull the butt plug into his p-spot. So, not only will the penetrative sex stimulate his shaft but his anus too! This is the only one I know of that also offers a vibrating bullet for additional stimulation if needed. Personally, the plug alone is enough stimulation all by itself!

Ro-Zen, vibrating butt plug

Anal Beads:

BDSM anal beads can add a unique and pleasurable twist to any bedroom experience. I highly recommend the B-Vibe Triplet Beads. Not only do they offer all the modern-day features with an extremely high quality material, but they are rather short and stout so they don’t need to be in all the way. Almost like a butt plug, yet you can pull a bead out or push a bead in depending on if your partner has been naughty or nice 😉. The other great part of them is you can leave them in and use the remote to control the vibration patterns and intensity!

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