By Lee & Jessica, Owners of DiskretAdultLife, September 18th, 2018
This guide will explain everything you need to know about using coconut oil as lube. If you aren’t already using lube in the bedroom, it is time to hop on the bandwagon. Natural and water-based lubes offer extreme benefits with very minimal risks. Lube is not just for older women or anal play, but everyone who is participating in sexual acts can reap the slippery rewards that lube offers!
Thanks to a handful of doctors and loads of research this guide has been put together for your full understanding on all sex lubes and using coconut oil as lube. We will explain the different kinds of sex lubricants on the market and the benefits and risks associated with each. We will dive deep into coconut oil as a lube and its role in the bedroom.
Who Should Use Lube:
Lube is not a requirement for vaginal penetrative sex, especially if the women creates enough natural body lubricant before and during sex. However, lube has become increasingly popular over the past decade and for good reason- It feel amazing! Having proper lubrication during sex can be night and day in the amount of pleasure you receive.
Proper lube will make everything slick, smooth, and slippery. It allows for the penis or sex toy to glide into the vagina. It can remove the pain, discomfort, and soreness that sometimes is associated with under lubricated penetrative sex.
Anal play requires lube! The anus does not have a natural sex lubricant like the vagina can produce. So, all anal play should have loads of lube to prevent tearing, severe stretching, and pain. Even if it is a small putt plug or anal bead, it is highly recommended to lube the sex toy and your anus directly before insertion.
Types of Lubes:
The explanation and description around every different type of sex lube on the market is left for an entirely dedicated article. Sense we are focusing on using coconut oil as lube, I will give a brief overview of the main types of sex lubes. You can compare these to coconut oil and determine the best product for your needs.
The real benefit to water-based lubes is they work with both condoms and all silicone sex toys. This is the main difference with oil-based lubes. This is why you must be careful when using coconut oil as a lube. The oil-based lubes can break down cheap silicone and latex in condoms.
Water-based lubes are the easiest to clean but also last the least amount of time when having sex. They are thin and have a low viscosity, but it doesn’t mean you can’t reapply mid-session. Just remember they won’t really work in the shower or tub, since you are using water-based lube in a water environment it will simply wash right off.
Silicone based lubes have some unique characteristics. The sensation of silicone is different than oil and water-based lubes, it has been described to feel more like silky smooth. It is usually hypoallergenic however it should be labeled as such.
You should never really be required to re-apply silicone-based lubes during your sexual session since the molecules of silicone are too large to be absorbed into your skin. This means the lube is super slippery and lasts much longer.
It is not a water-based lube, so it will work well in the tub, shower, and pool. However, just remember that silicone and silicone do not mix! You can not use a silicone lube with a silicone sex toy, the silicone molecules will break down the surface of the sex toy and it will become tacky and gummy. This can be a serious health hazard if you stick in your body at that point!
Oil-based lubes feel great and are readily available. Example would be using coconut oil as lube, or even olive oil! Most individuals already have these in their kitchen, and if you do that’s a good sign you’re not allergic to them.
The only downfall to using oil-based lubes like coconut oil, they’re not safe to use with condoms. The oil molecules will make the latex condom porous, which makes it more venerable to ripping. This will increase the risk of pregnancy and STI’s.
It is not very difficult to clean the coconut oil off yourself, besides most natural oils like coconut oil are good for your skin. But it will stain sheets and clothes, at least until you wash them good. So, lay a towel down before using coconut oil as a lube.
Coconut oil on quality silicone sex toys is perfectly fine. It also lasts a long time, so reapplying it won’t be necessary in most cases.
pH Levels of The Vagina:
The pH balance of the vagina is a delicate balance. Preventing yeast infections and keeping good bacteria in and bad bacteria out seems like a daunting task. I would not say it is something to obsess over since our body goes through natural swings depending on your body type. But it is something to be aware of.
If you are getting a lot of yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis or just feel itchy in the (butt or vagina) it could be from the type of lube you are using.
Lubes with low pH can cause a stinging or burning sensation during sex and after. While lubes that are in a higher pH than the vagina can lead to keeping bad bacteria in.
So, what is the pH level of the vagina? Does the pH of coconut oil make it a viable option to use as a lube?
The pH of the vagina can range anywhere from 3.5 – 7.5 on the pH scale. For comparison here is a scale of other natural items you would find on the pH scale:
Depending on where you are in your cycle, if you have a yeast or bacterial infection, or if you’re pre/post-menopausal all play a role in what pH level your vagina is at. Higher pH is likely due to being post-menopausal, bacterial infection, or menstrual blood. Although some women just run at a higher pH than others.
Optimal pH levels for the vagina are around 4.5-5.5
What Can Change Your pH balance:
- Semen: Yes, even something as natural as semen from common sex can change your pH as well. Semen is basic in pH so after sex your vagina naturally decreases in acidity.
- Soap and Douching: Soaps are commonly alkaline based, so douching can actually remove healthy bacteria. The best practice is using a pH-balanced intimate cleanser to clean your genitals.
- Eating: You can change your vaginal pH by eating probiotics and yogurt to help maintain acidity.
pH Levels of Coconut Oil as a Lube:
Coconut oil as a lube stands on the higher end of natural pH at around 6-7 on the pH scale. So, what does this mean for using coconut oil as a lube?
It is not harmful to use as a lube unless you are allergic. The only thing to keep in mind is if your body runs at a naturally higher pH and you start using coconut oil as a lube frequently, pay attention to the signs your body is giving you. It may cause yeast infection or itchiness.
Most cases it is perfectly fine and a great alternative to use something natural like coconut oil as lube, remember to never use it with a condom.
When to Use Coconut Oil as a Lube:
What is the proper way to use coconut oil as a lube? Go to your kitchen or the local grocery store and pick up some 100% all-natural coconut oil. It is used in a ton of cooking ingredients, so it is common everywhere. You can also get great sex lubes that have a coconut oil base.
Lay down a towel since it can temporarily stain the sheets. Coconut oil as a lube is great for sex toys, solo masturbation, penetrative sex vaginally, anal penetrative sex, and oral sex. Whoo! That’s a long list, but basically its good for all types of sex as long as a condom isn’t involved.
A lot of men and women find it best to use coconut oil as a lube when preforming oral sex. A lot of sex lubes on the market have all sorts of odd ingredients. Some you might be allergic to or worse. Some low-grade lubes on the market contain gluten, benzocaine, or petroleum oils. I will get into what to avoid next. Just understand that during oral sex it is a nice relief knowing that the coconut oil is safe to ingest and a 100% organic product.
Sex Lubes to Avoid:
Now that you know coconut oil as a lube is a safe and viable option. Here is a list of ingredients you want to avoid in your lube at all costs:
- Benzocaine- It will numb you, not like the numbing agents for pre-mature ejaculation but more so for first time anal play and those that find sex painful. The issue with benzocaine is; it is an irritant that blocks pain receptors. If you’re experiencing pain, it is your body telling you to stop, something is wrong.
- Gluten Sensitive: avoid oat beta glucan which is found in Sutil. Some people who have extreme reactions to gluten need to be careful. There are products out there that contain oats, tocopherols, wheat germ, sunflower, and sunflower oils.
- Prophylene Glycol
- Nonoxynol 9
- Petroleum Oils,
- Chlorhexedine Gluconate
- Sugar Alcohols,
Coconut oil as a lube Conclusion:
The next time you grab that lube, or any vaginal product, make sure you look at all the ingredients. Consider this; would you eat it? If you wouldn’t consume it orally, I suggest not using it in your vagina, which happens to be the most sensitive organ in the female body.
Vaginal dryness affects 85% of menopausal women. Lube becomes an important part of most women’s sex life. Coconut oil as a lube can be an amazing option for most women. As long as you’re not allergic or using a condom, coconut oil is a great alternative. It is 100% organic and safe to consume orally (if not allergic). Just remember to lay down a towel and enjoy the long lasting moisture it can bring to any sexual situation. Happy Lubing!
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