By Jane Jett, March 16th, 2018
You’ve read about it in books, seen it in movies & perhaps have a longing to explore some kink into your life. Let’s explore the art of erotic spanking.
Erotic spanking, when undertaken as part of a consensual, sensual session between fun-loving adults, is an extremely pleasurable activity. Both the spanker and spankee enjoy an entire catalog of positive sensations and emotions – not to mention a whole lot of physical stimulation.
As with all activities in the Kink lifestyle, consent and safety are key. Sure, the emphasis is always on exchange of control, adventure and fun, but the levels of vulnerability between partners enjoying kinky activities such as spanking are often pretty intense. So, how do you go about ensuring that you retain all the fun of a sound spanking, while keeping everyone safe? I’ll show you how to spank your partner soundly and oh-so safely.
So What is erotic Spanking exactly? Spanking, as part of sexual play, occurs when a person slaps a sex partner with an open hand or an object to heighten sexual arousal for one or both parties. Spanking is usually enjoyed by those who find sexual pleasure in pain. It can be done during foreplay or intercourse.
Let’s commence to spanking:
Once both parties have reached a consensual agreement my best advice is to ready, yes focus your spanking on the buttocks.
1.) Always avoid impact on or above the tailbone, outside of the buttocks, lower thighs, the back of the knees, and where the bottom ends and the thighs begin. It’s easy to damage the tailbone or kidneys if you’re spanking gets out of the safe zone. And anyway, most people find that it feels best on their butts.
2.) You can create different sensations by having the receiving partner in different positions. If they’re lying flat on a bed, their butt is less stretched out than if they’re bent over or on their hands and knees. Many people find that the further their hips are bent, the stronger the same impact can feel.
3.) I would recommend for first time play using your hand to spank as to have a better understanding of how your partner is feeling, if you’re not sure what you or your partner likes, start slow and ask. One great way to do that is to spank once and
ask them to rate it on a scale of one to ten. Another way is to do two different strokes and ask which one felt better.
Okay so the spanking is over now what?
Great question. After Care, After Care, After Care. soothing lotion, a blanket, a sip of water, and a cuddle are wonderful tools for all parties involved. The spanker should check in on the spankee and discuss how the spankee is feeling both physically and emotionally. If your spanking session leads to wild, orgasmic, delicious hot sex, the aftercare can wait until you’re done, but always check in with your partner at some point. FYI Spankings might cause redness, bruises, and tenderness.
As you both ride the wave of orgasmic pleasure always remember that they key element to exploration is always to provide a safe, sane and consensual environment where both parties feel free to experiment and find what works best for each other. Not all spankings are equal, and you might be surprised at what they can do for you and your relationship.