By Lee & Jessi, Owners of DiskretAdultLife, August 14th, 2018
I was always wondered why no one has created a simple ‘how to’ masturbate for girls guide?! Let’s be honest, over 72% of women have masturbated in the past year and depending on age the number can go even higher than that. So, what is the best way for girls to masturbate? Well, this “how to” masturbate for girls guide will walk you step-by-step through the entire process. We will leave no stone unturned, and the entire masturbation process explained in detail.
So grab your popcorn, sit back, and truly understand what your body is looking for and how to masturbate for all types of women!
What is the key to best masturbation practices for women? What are the different types of masturbation? What is the best way for women to masturbate? All these questions and more will be answered throughout this guide.
The most important thing to take from all this is understanding your body is the key. Nobody in the world has the same exact body as you, so only you will develop a specific way as your masturbation maturity grows.
Over time you will develop specific techniques, positions, and sex toys that deliver the most pleasure for you! These skills will also transfer to your sex life with a partner. Once you fully understand what you crave and show your partner through communication and guidance it will improve your entire sex life!
So, what are the different types of women masturbation out there?! Women can masturbate with stimulation in the following areas: clitoral, vaginal, anal, combo, and erogenous zones. Each of these will be covered in detail.
Women clitoral masturbation is among the most common forms of stimulation. The clitoris is a protrusion shaped like a pearl or pea at the top of the vulva. The clitoris gland which is the only external manifestation of the clitoris, can be stroked in a straight or circular motion to be stimulated. Once stimulated it will swell and be much easier to find.
Lots of women who masturbate develop their skills beyond using their hands; into the sex toy world!
This is where your world becomes vast for unimaginable pleasure and exciting unique experiences.
We will dive deeper into sex toy masturbation later but understand this is not only for solo operations. Just as you or your partner will touch your clitoris, they can use or watch you use sex toys as well. After all, if something feels great, why not share it?!
Vaginal masturbation is the most common form among women masturbation. You can use your fingers or a sex toy to penetrate your vagina during solo and couples play! You will feel the orgasm deeper in your body, and your vaginal walls will throb around your sex toy or fingers.
Remember that an orgasm from all these different masturbation penetrations will feel very different. An orgasm from clitoral stimulation will vary from vaginal stimulation. Just like an orgasm from a sex toy will feel different from that of you or your partners hand.
Girls can use their fingers or a sex toy for anal play, just remember a anal sex toy will help you get deeper penetration with vibration depending on the sex toy.
An orgasm from anal penetration has said to be 33% stronger than that of vaginal or clitoral. The only way to test that theory is by diving into the anal world yourself. Note the Diskret blog here for tips, tricks, and safety around anal masturbation.
This is where things start to develop beyond your standard hand technique that most started with early on. Combo masturbation is exactly that, a combination of hands, sex toys, vagina and clitoral simulation.
The possibilities become endless when you throw anal in the mix, or even get a partner’s hands to help.
The key is to start simple and slowly work your way down avenues you find most pleasure in. If your big into anal, then try clitoral stimulation while using anal beads… you get the idea.
These are zones that bring pleasure but are not directly genitals related. Some examples of these zones are inner thighs, neck, ears, nipples, and butt.
These zones can be kissed, licked, pinched, rubbed, squeezed or tugged. Remember to start with these zones during a solo masturbation session or sex.
These zones help build the anticipation for what’s to follow. So, utilize these just as your partner would during some amazing foreplay. The more you time, effort, and passion you put into your masturbation, the more intense the orgasm will be to follow.
How to Start Masturbating:
Women masturbation doesn’t always have to lead to orgasm. But it sure never hurt anyone! With these simple steps you will not only highly increase your chances of orgasming through masturbation, but the orgasm will feel much more intense.
Setting the Mood for Masturbation:
You have all seen it done in the cheesy romantic movies where the guy lights the candles, turns on some smooth jazz, and dims the lights.
Is that a little extreme, perhaps. But it does bring up an extremely important factor in women masturbation. The body is typically always ready for masturbation, it’s the mind that must be in the right mood.
If your mind is completely relaxed the body will follow. This is one of the most important things for female masturbation! Relax, and take deep breaths. Find a spot that is comfortable, quiet, and private. You shouldn’t have to worry about your kids, or roommate walking in on you. So take some time to prepare, and find the proper location.
Candles, although cheesy and not very original, for some women the sent can help relax them, same goes for bath salts and burning incense. Take the time to put on your favorite body lotion or draw a warm bath.
Lighting is a complete preference as well. If you want to watch porn or flip them completely off that’s up to you. The more ways you try it the more you will develop a taste and habit for your ultimate experience.
Time is critical. Make sure you have plenty of it, especially when first starting out. For one you don’t want to have an alarm or time limit set in the back of your head. This will kill the vibe as fast as your mom walking in…
Give yourself at least a full hour to start. Once you become more experienced in the masturbation act you can get it done in 5 minutes if in a crunch.
Don’t forget sometimes making an entire afternoon of the affaire can bring a whole day of pleasure. In our busy lives its like a mini vacation so set a date where you plan to do nothing but masturbate for an entire afternoon!
This doesn’t require you to touch yourself for 4 hours but maybe start with a warm bath and glass of wine, or a sexy movie you know gets you warmed up. Then move on to the following steps:
Women Masturbation Fantasies:
First things first you need to prepare yourself by letting your mind wander. It may go without saying, but simply thinking of a sexual encounter can get you turned on.
Let you mind fantasize about people or situations that get the heart pounding and blood going. This all goes back to the above step of having enough time, and fully relaxing. If you’re not relaxed, you will not be able to fully indulge yourself into your mysterious fantasies.
Need help picturing things? No worries you can always read some literotica to warm up or watch porn. Porn is a great way to warm up or watch throughout your entire masturbation session.
I know it sounds silly but outercourse is a technique used by many looking to remain abstinent and still get pleasure from each other. What does this have anything to do with masturbation?
It’s all about the anticipation! Not the direct drive into the end zone (vagina) but the stimulation outside and around before hand that leads to the most pleasure!
Tease yourself by caressing, pinching, or rubbing your erogenous zones. Feel your inner thigh and nipples before going straight into your vagina. Lightly touch around your clitoris and build the anticipation.
Masturbate with Lube:
Lube is your friend! For masturbation beginners to the advanced we all love lube. Remember there is really no such thing as to much, however know the risks involved in specific lubes. Some contain silicon that can react with low quality sex toys, that are littered throughout the sex toy industry.
Go with a trusted retailer for your lube and sex toys, to insure you’re safe and no chemical or allergic reactions would happen. Remember some natural lubes are the best solution to ensure your safety.
Diskret highly recommends water based or natural coconut oil lubes. These are safe with most sex toys; however, you still want to stay away from low quality toys because you never know what the silicone make up is. Most luxury sex toys are the best bang for your buck because they are safe and last forever.
Use a Sex Toy to Masturbate:
If you haven’t tried a sex toy to masturbate with yet, be prepared to have your mind blown! There are hundreds of options out there to pick from, and I suggest something simple and small to medium in size.
If you want an anal sex toy you have anal beads or butt plugs. For vaginal masturbation you can pick from dildos, vibrators, or ben wa balls. I suggest a simple dildo or vibrator to start with.
Don’t get overwhelmed with all the options, go with something that looks fun and interesting to you. Once you have tried a couple of them you will start to develop a feel for if you want something large in diameter or length, clitoris stimulation or g-spot stimulation, and if you want vibration or not.
You really can’t go wrong with your higher end luxury sex toys. These are built out of safe material, high vibration sensations, quality material that makes it durable, and usually waterproof with an electric recharging unit. What more could you ask for?!
Women Masturbation Conclusion:
In conclusion women masturbate a lot, much more than most of you think. Its important to understand the basics behind it in order to get the most pleasure out of your experience.
A couple things to keep in mind during women masturbation is keep fully relaxed, have lots of time, and a great sex toy.
Women can masturbate in lots of different ways such as anal, vaginal, clitoral, combo, and pleasure zones.
Masturbation is not always a solo act, get your partner involved and have them warm you up by touching you or watching you masturbate. This can then lead into one of your hottest sex sessions yet!
The most important thing is to keep experimenting, keep trying new things, and become a master of your own mind and body.
This will help you achieve orgasm more frequently, control how powerful the sensations are, and improve your sex life through communicating what your desires are to your partner.
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