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By Mistress Kay of DiskretAdultLife, Jan. 9th, 2019

How to Give the Best Blowjob Step 1: Learn the Anatomy

If you plan on harnessing the ability to make another person feel some of the best pleasure possible, you need to know what you’re working with. You may have played with a penis up close-and-personal many times, but how much do you know about the anatomy? Do you know where the common pleasure spots are? Do you know how much pressure can work in some areas – but that same pressure might feel painful in another? Can you name some of the basic parts of the penis – and explain a bit about how erections work? What about how cock rings work? How does ejaculation feel to someone with a penis – and what are the signs that someone is about to orgasm?

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Penile Anatomy

If you can’t answer some of those questions, it might be time to check out some information about the penile anatomy. In the journey of how to give the best blowjob, it might seem that anatomy is unimportant. It isn’t. If you plan on using your body to cause as much pleasure and enjoyment as possible, it requires knowing how to cause that pleasure. It requires knowing the basic structures of the penis, so you can tease and draw out the recipient’s enjoyment until you’re ready for them to enjoy the finale. Knowing this information lets you better control the pace of your blowjob – which is exactly what you’ll want when you’re trying to provide the best blowjob possible.

While this article focuses on the act of giving oral sex to a penis as the most common definition of “blowjob”, you or your partner may consider the act of giving oral sex to a vagina to be a “blowjob” as well. In that case, change around some of the words, take a different anatomy lesson, and most of this article will apply to your situation just fine! No matter the genitals, how to give the best blowjob is still broken down into similar steps.

How to Give the Best Blowjob Step 2: Learn your Partner’s Pleasure Spots

Knowing the basic anatomy of a penis is a fantastic play to start. It’s not the end of the learning, though. You need to learn about that individual person’s penis. Every individual body responds differently to different things – and enjoys different things too. It’s up to you to learn what those things are. Does direct stimulation of the head feel too intense? Do they prefer lots of testicle involvement – or none at all? Every individual person will have their own preferences – just like you do with your body.

Communication

Figuring out their pleasure spots can be as simple as asking. During a chill, low-key pleasure time, consider changing your focus into verbal feedback. “Do you like it better when I do this or this?” Partner that statement with a couple different sensations, and you’ll slowly figure out what pleasure spots are best. Better yet, you can ask to watch them while they stroke their self. Not only will you gather valuable knowledge, but this can just be downright fun! In-between your enjoyment of the show, focus on where they tends to focus their movements – especially as they’re trying to get closer to orgasm.

Finally, you can always just ask as well. This one might be harder for some

people – as some people take a “I don’t know. I just do what feels good.” mindset – which isn’t useful for you. Some people, however, will have mapped out their entire pleasure zone and will be able to give you a thorough run-down: “Well, I like to focus on the shaft as I start out, and I find that a lot of testicle movement feels super good for me unless I’m getting close to orgasm and then I like to….” If you’re getting the verbal information you need, great. If not, consider the earlier suggestions to have more of a real-time exploration session to figure it out.

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How to Give the Best Blowjob Step 3: Experiment with Movements

You have two hands and a mouth. Have you been using all three during your blowjobs? If not, it might be time to start. There’s a whole lot of different ways that those three components can be combined to make an amazing sensation for your bj recipient. In fact, learning how to give the best blowjob pretty much requires learning how to use all three to provide pleasurable and reliable sensations. You can use your mouth on the head while alternating your hands on the shaft. Or you could use your mouth on the head while using both hands at once. You could alternate a deep throat stroke with your mouth and a stroke with the hand. As you can see, there are a lot of options to be played with when you have these three options.

So your next step on learning how to give the best blowjob is to learn to use these three parts effectively. This involves some experimentation. Try new things. Bring both hands into the mix. Alternate between all three and see what works for you. Consider twisting motions or new hand motions that you may never have considered. Think about varying the pressu

re that you use during your strokes. Or else, try a sex toy sleeve in the mix! There are lots of ways to change up the sensation with both hands and your mouth, and learning how to har

ness those things is what will bring you into “best blowjob” territory.

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How to Give the Best Blowjob Step 4: Experiment with Novelty

Hand and mouth movement isn’t the only thing that goes into giving a fantastic blowjob. In fact, novelty and new ideas can play an important role as well. While you may not want to use the infamous (for being terrible) idea of sliding a donut down the shaft and eating it as you give a blowjob, you can take this flair for creativity and apply it to your own blowjobs. Learning how to give the best blowjob can include knowing when to include (and not to include) unique elements to your oral fun.

Most of these new ideas can be pretty simple and easy too. Do you usually give your blowjob in your favorite living room chair? Take it outside – or in the bedroom – or even secretly in the backseat of the car! The human brain responds really well to novelty – to the point that even a new location can cause someone to rate your same technique as all-around better. Consider new locations – and new circumstances – to increase enjoyment in your blowjob technique. How to give the best blowjob can be as simple as that – being willing to adventure and suck off in new spots.

It’s not all about the location, though. It can be about changing the feel of your mouth too. Using mints before a blowjob can be a very common trick that can feel pleasurable and unique. Popping candy also has that “cult classic” feel to it as well. You might even think about some flavored lubricant to make your hands glide better during manual stimulation. Experiment with different things to figure out how to change the sensation of your mouth for the better.

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How to Give the Best Blowjob Step 5: Find Inspiration for New Techniques

Now that you’ve tried out some new things in the bedroom, you might find yourself at a loss for ideas. You think you’ve exhausted all of the ideas you can come up with. Well, that’s when it might be time to consult outside sources for tips on how to give the best blowjob ever.

If you want to start with the most reputable sources, consider books focused on how to give the best blowjob. “Penis Genius: The Best Tips and Tricks for Working His Stick“, “Blow Him Away: How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex“, and “Oral Sex He’ll Never Forget: 52 Positions and Techniques Guaranteed to Blow Your Man Away“.

These are all high-quality books that’ll likely introduce you to a few new concepts – regardless of how experienced you are. Taking time to learn from other people is definitely part of how to give the best blowjob; you can never have too many tricks up your sleeve to impress during oral sex!

If you’d like to find more “crowd sourced” ideas, consider looking online. They may not all be winners, but you can find some good ideas on Fetlife and sex forums that might be applicable to your own circumstances as well. You might even consider checking out some erotica and sensual stories focused on blowjobs. Doesn’t it make sense that erotica might include some of the hottest elements for oral sex – and might be a good place to look for inspiration?

 

How to Give the Best Blowjob Step 6: Ask for Feedback and Critique

This is something that happens relatively often in the kink community, but you don’t see it too much when to comes to having non-kinky sex. Maybe it’s because more of our egos are wrapped up in sexual activity – or maybe it’s just because we don’t pre-negotiate our intercourse like we do with kinky activities. Either way, asking for feedback or critique can really help you learn how to give the best blowjob.

Keeping in mind that every particular penis is going to be unique, you can take that feedback and apply it to your technique – if only for that one particular blowjob receiver. Did they say that you knicked them a few time with your teeth? Well, that happens – and it’s usually something that most receivers don’t enjoy, so you’ll learn to pay even more attention to your teeth. Did they say that you switched between your hands and your mouth too much? Well, that might be more of a personal preference, and you can mentally file that away for your current oral sex partner, but it might not be helpful for how to give the best blowjob in the future with a new partner.

 

How To Give The Best Blowjob; New Partners Require Communication:

Especially if this is a new partner, make sure to phrase your request in a way that’s going to be helpful for you. Unbeknownst to you, you might have a partner who isn’t used to open communication – and may not understand a gentle way to phrase things. If asking for feedback on how to give the best blowjob, consider language like this: “That was so fun. Thanks for allowing me to suck you off like that. I’ve really been trying to improve my technique lately. I hope it shows. If you’re comfortable with sharing, can you tell me what you really loved – and what I could have done to improve?”

This language does a few things. First, it respects the recipient’s comfort level if they aren’t interested in talking about it. Second, in case they aren’t used to providing constructive feedback, it asks them to provide both good things and could-be-improved things about your technique. Third off, you’ve given them the reason behind it – which is learning how to give the best blowjob – so if they plan on receiving any in the future from you, they’re now vested in making sure to give you good feedback instead of blowing (pun intended) it off.

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How To Give The Best Blowjob; Learn & Apply:

Once you have that critique, don’t forget to apply it in future oral sex sessions. It may not be applicable to every partner, but along the route, you’ll learn new techniques and new ways to do things that might be perfect as a fun surprise to a regular partner – or as a potential starting point to a new partner. Part of the fun of learning how to give the best blow job is learning all the new techniques and fun ways to suck a cock that turn a “standard” technique into that “best blowjob”. Take the critique to heart, but don’t forget to remember how far you’ve come (another pun!), and don’t beat yourself up about any feedback either. Enjoy having some honest praise on your technique – and enjoy the oral journey as you get better and better.

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