How to Use a Dildo!

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By Lee & Jessica, Owners of DiskretAdultLife, September 27th, 2018

It’s a difficult and exhausting task trying to find and pick out the right dildo, but have you given much thought in how to use a dildo? Once you find and pick a dildo out, the last thing most women are concerned with is are they actually using it properly? You slide it in and out until achieving orgasm. Simple, easy, and effective so what more could you really ask for?

In this article I will explain through research and testimonies, the vast and pleasurable ways of using a dildo. If you want to know how to use a dildo for the most pleasure, try a few of the examples shown below. It can be simple to start out, but once you develop more advanced techniques you will never go back.how to use a dildo

How to Pick a Dildo That’s Right for You:

You have thousands of options when it comes to picking a dildo and it can be quite overwhelming. But if you want to know how to use a dildo the right way, you must pick the proper dildo for the task at hand. Here are the main things to consider when picking out a dildo:

 

  • Dildo Size:

When learning how to use a dildo the size is very important. If you know your body and understand how “tight” your vaginal cavity is, you can pick out a dildo with more confidence. If one finger feels tight, you might want to stick with a slim dildo, if three fingers feel loose, you will need something with more girth. Its not a scientific measurement but will help guide you in the beginning.

Once you own a few dildos, you will know what range size is best for that “fullness” feeling. If you are learning how to use a dildo with something too large or small, it will feel uncomfortable or even sore. If you experience anything uncomfortable stop immediately! Using a dildo is about experiencing pleasure not fighting through some discomfort to see if it gets better. Most good retailers will take the product back within the first week no questions asked.

  • Clitoral Stimulation:

Some dildos will stimulate the clitoris at the same time as your vagina. It is recommended when first learning how to use a dildo, save these types of dildos for when you have slightly more experience. It’s not that a beginner can’t get pleasure from a dildo of this type, it’s just easier to start simple and work your way up from there.

  • Vibrating Dildo:

Ever wonder how a dildo would feel with vibration? Well that’s where vibrators come into play. There are a lot of beginner vibrators on the market, but some women prefer a standard dildo over the vibrator, especially when first starting out. Plus, dildos typically cost less than vibrators. Check out how to use a vibrator here.how to use a vibrator rabbit

  • Dildo Shape:

How does the dildo shape really effect the pleasure you receive? It’s a simple concept really, all women’s bodies are a different shape, size, and look. You need to find a dildo that matches your body curves. You also will need to find a dildo shape that will stimulate what you’re looking for. For example, are you looking for deep penetration, external stimulation, g-spot stimulation or an all-around well-balanced dildo? This seems a little extreme, I know… But it is all an important factor that over time you will develop, learn, and understand to receive the ultimate pleasure. Have you used a g-spot dildo curved to match your vaginal cavity, that has the proper girth and length for the ultimate orgasm? It’s a beautiful thing when done properly. The days of grabbing this cheap silicone thing and shoving it in and out are over… Were now in the 21st century where sex robots can talk to you!

  • Dildo Material:

When learning how to use a dildo the material is almost as important as the size and shape. When looking at very cheap dildos the material can be toxic, so be aware of the chemical make-up. The most risk comes from silicone dildos with oil-based lube. The lube can break down these cheap dildos and release toxins. Just be aware of this is all.

Dildos can come in stainless-steel, glass, crystal stones, wood, and silicone. From a quality standpoint I ranked them highest to least. Like most things, you typically get what you pay for. If you find a silicone dildo for 10 bucks that is 50% off chances are your taking a risk and won’t be satisfied with the quality or pleasure it brings.how to use a dildo

  • Dildo Lube:

Keep this rule in mind: Silicone does not mix with oil. You should always use lube with any sex toy but keep oil-based lubes away from silicone sex toys and condoms. It increases the risk to break down the sex toy or tear the condom. Instead use water-based lubes. Oil based lube is great for all other material sex toys and in the shower or tub since the oil will last longer.

  • Dildo Color:

Not the most functional feature of any dildo, but if you buy something quality, it can last you years of pleasure. So, make sure it’s visually appealing to you and your partner. It should be a show piece, not something you are embarrassed to pull out in front of your partner.

How to Use a Dildo to Masturbate:

                  There are a couple key things to remember when understanding how to use a dildo to masturbate. The most important are:

  • Set the Mood:

We have said it before but continue to stress the importance of setting the mood. It is not “cheap” or “corny”. Setting the mood can turn any ordinary masturbation session into the ultimate night in. It can be something as simple as dimming the lights and lighting some candles. Or something as extreme as turning hardcore porn on. However, you decided to alter your surroundings, take the time to prepare for your masturbation session and it will really pay off. Understanding the technique behind how to use a dildo is just as important as the time spent leading up to the actual penetration of the dildo itself.

  • Have Plenty of Time

The “quickie” has its time and place. Don’t turn every masturbation session into a quickie. To experience a full body, mind blowing, body shaking orgasm it doesn’t occur in 2 minutes. Its all about the buildup and anticipation. Once you have the proper dildo, run it all over your body, rub it on your clit and get it nice and wet. Lube the shaft, stroke the shaft, suck the shaft, use the dildo for more than just single-entry penetration. Take the time, to experience your bodies full potential.

  • Fully Relax the Body & Mind:

Knowing how to relax your body and mind is just important as knowing how to use a dildo. Being stressed out can have negative effects on trying to get turned on or having the ability to orgasm. So, take a warm bath, hire a babysitter to take the kids out, or watch a long romantic movie. Whatever it is that helps relax your body, do before touching yourself. You can always start touching yourself in the bath or during a partner massage if you feel completely relaxed and ready to go!

  • Warm Yourself Up:

Use your favorite water-based lube on your fingers to start. Start slowly touching yourself in all places, don’t just go straight for your genitals. Don’t ignore other sensitive areas like your ears, nipples, and inner thighs. Your partner should never ignore these either while warming you up either. Once you are completely turned on, and fully relaxed pull out your dildo.how to use a dildo

Each dildo will give unique experiences and pleasure so if you want to know how to use a dildo for the most pleasure, you must experience a wide variety before truly knowing your body and style.

How to Use a Dildo with a Partner:

When most people think of how to use a dildo it is always a solo masturbation act. But why is that? Using a dildo with a partner can be better than alone. Your partner can help warm you up, use the dildo, then finish off with penetration or oral sex. It can all easily blend into one large orgy of pleasure. You have his penis (or her vagina) their tongue and touch, then you throw a dildo into the mix!

When first trying this, if your partner is a guy who has never used a dildo on a partner or you, he will require guidance. You need to show him how to use a dildo, either through words (left, right, fast, soft) or with your hand on his. If he still isn’t getting it, make him sit back and watch how you use it. This will show him exactly how to use a dildo on you. It is also a huge turn on to force him watch you masturbate.

How to Use a Dildo (technique & examples)

      Now that you understand almost everything about how to use a dildo, lets get into some more technical detail about the actual process. Once you set the mood, get relaxed, have the lube, and warmed up… what’s next?! Grab that dildo and we will show you some amazing examples of how to use it.

  • Deep Thrusting Dildo:

The name says it all ladies… slow, long, deep thrusting. Thrusting along the entire length of your vagina provides external and internal stimulation as it slides in. For this example, a textured straight dildo will suit you best. Make sure the length and girth are appropriate for your body type. It should have a fullness feeling and reach as far as your willing to comfortably go. A wobbly silicone dildo can make this action tough. Stick with something stiffer, if the texture becomes overwhelming you can always switch to a smooth dildo.

  • Rock the Dildo While Entering:

A straight dildo doesn’t always limit you. When learning how to use a dildo you need to experiment different techniques with it. Try rocking it in and out. As you slide it in, pull the handle towards you and vise versa on the way out. Start slow and increase pace in a rhythmic pattern. You want the dido to apply pressure at the bottom of your vagina when fully inserted.moon crystal dildo classy sex toy

This sensation is similar to thrusting but will also provide some clitoral stimulation when the dildo is at the shallowest part of entry and it is tipped up. Rocking works best with a dildo that has some give in it. You can try it with a curved dildo for that extra rock effect if you enjoy it with the straight dildo.

  • Rotational Thrusting Dildo:

In this one you twist the dildo in rotations while thrusting it in and out. There is a whole category of dildos known as “juicers” they come with a crank and you turn them as you insert. So you know this action works well. Most dildos will work with this technique as long as they don’t have sever bends in them.

  • Shallow Dildo Strokes:

As the famous saying goes “just the tip”. When first starting to learn how to use a dildo try slowly inserting just the tip. Shallow quick strokes can actually bring the most pleasure. This is because majority of your nerves are based externally and up to 2 inches inside the vagina. That means you don’t need the super victor (now discontinued… I wonder why?) in order to get off.

  • Dildo Anal Play:

Although specific toys like anal beads and butt plugs are typically used for anal. By no means does it leave dildos off the table. If you love anal play, go ahead and use that dildo in the rear. If you are not used to anal sex, make sure to take the proper measures first before tying a dildo back there. Use lots of lube, make sure the dildo is clean before putting it back in your vagina.

  • Double Penetration:

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Who said only one dildo is allowed? Grab two dildos or a dildo and butt plug. Then leave one in your butt while you stroke the dildo in and out of your vagina. This will provide A-spot and G-spot

stimulation. Still not enough pleasure? Use that spare hand to rub your clitoris while stroking the dildo. This will be an overload of pleasure surging through your body. It can be overwhelming for some women, so I highly suggest working your way up to something like that.

How to Use a Dildo Conclusion:

            In the end you will learn how to use a dildo through experience and a little research. The most important part is not the actual action of the dildo, but the steps you take in preparation leading up to it. Take your time, start slow, use lube, set the mood… the list goes on. Everything will be a new and exciting sexual experience so don’t try to jump into it all at once. Just take it one step at a time, try a different dildo here and there. It’s a fun process to learn your body and what kind of pleasure something as simple as a dildo or vibrator can bring.

Once you know your body and how to really receive loads of pleasure from your dildo, share that experience with a partner! It can become a massive turn on for both of you to introduce sex toys into the bedroom with each other! With or without someone, have fun and enjoy the delightful, mind-blowing orgasms that a dildo can bring!

 

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