By: Jessica & Lee Founders of Diskret_Adult_Life ( Phone Sex )

 

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Its time to have the hottest phone sex of your life.

 

If this doesn’t get you and the opposing caller off… I don’t know what will!

 

These tips, examples, and explanations come form real phone sex operators who have worked in the professional business for many years. They have seen it all! Or should I say heard it all… The good, the bad, the creepy, and the hottest sessions under the sun.

 

Here is how it works, so the next time your away from a partner or looking to call a hot line, you’ll know exactly what to say but more importantly, how to act!

 

Phone sex is so much more than just words… It can be a full body, orgasmic experience for both you and the caller on the other side!

 

So lay back, relax, and dial that number. But not before reading this!

 

What is Phone Sex

 

Let’s start with the basics, shall we?

 

Like most things in life, phone sex comes in many shapes, sizes, and colors.

 

While phone sex is simply the act of talking sexual over the phone to another person. It takes on so many different versions.

 

At first, most of you might think it’s a man calling his wife when away on work…

 

Or, maybe you are in a long-distance relationship?

 

Perhaps, you could just be single and looking to get off with someone over the phone?

 

This might be some of the most common cases of phone sex, but like our experienced phone sex operators revealed it comes in many more shades of gray than this.

 

Some individuals will call a hot-line number just to talk. Nothing really sexual they might just be lonely and need conversation.

 

Other people would call and vent. For instance, a housewife who was a regular caller would talk to the operator about how she had a child and now her husband doesn’t look at her the same. The phone sex operator helped her gain her sexual confidence back and improve her love life!

 

Then there is the freaky phone sex scenarios that involve roleplay, submissive, dominant, and age play… These can be hot if the two consenting users have a bit of experience and want to really dive deep into their personal fantasies!

 

When its just you and a phone, your imagination can truly run wild!

 

How Does Phone Sex Work

 

Now that you know what phone sex is, how exactly should it work?

 

Is it filled with long awkward pauses?

 

Should it be serious or more open?

 

Can I get off during phone sex or is it strictly foreplay?

 

You probably have a million questions running through your head if you haven’t had great phone sex before. That’s okay, were here to help!

 

There is a fine line between extremely hot phone sex that will get both of you so turned on it will be nearly impossible to let it end… Or the worst sexual experience you have ever had.

 

Here are some key points you need to understand if you want to know how phone sex works.

 

Communication:

 

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Content, consent, consent. Need me to say it again?

 

Consent!

 

Phone sex is a two-way street. Kind of obvious since it involves you and another person on a direct line…

 

But what makes or breaks phone sex 90% of the time is you both want to try it! You’re willing to focus on it and dedicate the time.

 

It’s a bit awkward if you plan on having phone sex and he or she has no clue its coming. Your trying to talk all sexy and they wonder if you’ve had one to many drinks or having a complete mental break down…

 

Believe me, been there… Done that.

 

All you need to do is communicate ahead of time!

 

Give them a sexy text or talk about it in person. Let them know you want to talk dirty later and make sure they are on the same page.

 

It saves a lot of awkwardness to start.

 

Add Video Sex

 

Sure, dirty talk and describing the action can be sexy, but sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words.

 

There are tons of apps that allow you to video call. You can use Skype, Facetime, or Whatsapp to name a few.

 

Have your sexy outfit on, get comfortable, and make sure any stress risers are taken care of.

 

The door locked, shades drawn, kids are not around… whatever helps you relax and get in the mood.

 

Make sure to have your favorite sex toy at your side, ready for action.

 

For women a smaller vibrator works best as it leaves the most viewing pleasure for your partner.

 

 

Gigi 2, Lelo

 

 

For men, a sex sleeve works really well as your partner can watch you slowly glide it up and down your shaft.

 

 

Tenga, Zero Flip Black, Teng Zero Flip Black

 

It’s okay to warm up with dirty talk and using your hand, but nothing is hotter than mutual masturbation with a sex toy!

 

Plus, it makes it really easy for you both to climax multiple times!

 

Its perfectly okay to mute and just watch each other too. Its also fun to hold the phone so it’s only showing your face. Have your partner watch your intense orgasmic reactions without seeing the vibrator penetrating you… It’s a sexy tease, and a good one at that!

 

Lube:

 

Pro tip here… It’s kind of a buzz kill when you got your sex toy all ready, your partner is drooling in anticipation of watching you use it and you have to put everything on hold while you dig through drawers looking for lube.

 

Have a great water-based lube ready to go. Make sure your partner can see as you apply it to yourself and the sex toy. This is hot foreplay!

 

As with remembering the lube, don’t forget to have your sex toy charged up along with your phone. A dropped call or dead sex toy can end the hot phone sex really quick!

 

How To Have Phone Sex:

 

So, if you want to know how to have the best phone sex phone sex it starts with the details!

 

Tell you partner in excruciating detail exactly what your thinking and what you’re doing to yourself as you do it.

 

Don’t just say “I’m touching myself, and it feels good”.

 

Say something like: “I’m caressing my inner thigh with a curved g-spot vibrator. I can’t wait to feel it penetrate my wet pussy. But first, I’m going to slowly rub it across my clit… Mmmhh that feels incredible. I’m going to imagine it’s you as I slide it deep inside my…”

 

You get the picture. Literally, your partner should be able to paint the picture of you doing exactly what your saying.

 

Now, do you have to touch yourself during phone sex?

 

Absolutely not, but it sure does make it more fun if you both can get off during it!

 

Phone sex can be used for foreplay as well. You don’t have to climax every time.

 

I knew plenty of clients who would use it as foreplay when coming home from work.

 

Say you have a 20-minute drive home, call your partner when you leave work and talk dirty to them while on the drive.

 

You will both be so turned on the second you walk through the door, its go time!

 

The Best Phone Sex

 

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The best phone sex is typically honed in over time. It’s important to just be yourself, but the words will flow easier and easier the more times you do it.

 

You’ll know exactly how to start, how to build the sexual experience, and how to time the climax together.

 

The first time you have phone sex it might be a bit clumsy, but if you both know your just having fun and don’t take it too seriously, it will all work out.

 

Take turns with talking and just remember to also fall back on the details.

 

The best phone sex typically involves these couple of things:

 

Mutual Masturbation

 

If you are both in a private location and have the freedom to touch yourself, go for it!

 

Mutual masturbation is the act of watching each other masturbate. However, you can describe it over the phone while masturbating or use video to show them.

 

Make sure you both have your favorite sex toy at the bedside. Of course, you can masturbate with your hand, but this isn’t 1950 anymore. Everyone uses sex toys for the massive boost in pleasure, sensation, and intense orgasms.

 

For her, try a powerful g-spot vibrator. This is likely to give her longer lasting orgasms and possibly even squirt, which can be hot if you have the video on the phone going!

 

For him, use a masturbation sleeve. These can mimic the exact sensation of penetrating your partner, which is perfect for seriously hot phone sex!

 

You can’t always time your orgasm out perfectly, so if you cum before your partner, don’t leave them hanging. Keep touching yourself and talking dirty to them until they get to finish as well.

 

Remember, video works great, especially if you have a sex toy you can display working its magic.

 

Don’t forget to give them a close-up while you orgasm. This can be the hottest scene and you don’t want them missing it!

 

For more on mutual masturbation, check out my dedicated blog here.

 

Dirty Talk:

 

“Talk dirty to me baby!”

 

It takes time to understand what your partner likes and how to “talk the talk”.

 

If you’ve never talked dirty to anyone it can be seriously odd feeling at first. That’s okay! It doesn’t just flow like poetry to start. At least not for most people.

 

You can read or listen to literotica to help get the lingo down. Understand the words used, how to build the sensation, and what to say when.

 

Words can be powerful; you have no idea how simply describing your rock-hard shaft sliding in and out of your partner can turn them on to a new level of wetness!

 

wet girl

 

Or how describing you want him to cum inside you so bad… It takes him from 0 to 100 real quick!

 

For super hot dirty talking examples, check out my full blog here! Your phone sex will never be the same!

 

What’s Your Fantasy?

 

The best phone sex often involves fantasies!

 

Fun Sex

 

Your fantasy or their fantasy! Now’s the time to ask, tell, and listen.

 

Be bold, be brave, often that’s the best part of phone sex. You can tell them your deepest fantasies without the nerves of being in person and getting direct reactions from them.

 

Tell them a fantasy, and pause, let them ponder it. Let them digest it.

 

Something they might initially be shocked about it in person and feel under pressure to respond a certain way, no longer exists over the phone.

 

Now you can speak your fantasy, in great detail, without fear.

 

Tell her you want to give pegging a try. Ask her to wear a fancy leather harness. Whatever you fantasy might be!

 

Tell him you want to be tied up. Ask him to use your favorite vibrator on you…

 

But again, details are key here. Describe your fantasy in excruciating detail to them. If you haven’t mapped it all out in your head before, that’s okay. This is the perfect time to walk yourself through it with him or her. It’s an extremely hot process that will most likely get you both heated up!

 

Not even sure where to begin? Check out the top 45 sex fantasy ideas here for steamy inspiration.

 

Phone Controlled Sex Toys

 

Technology has “cum” a long way!

 

Some sex toy manufacturing companies offer sex toys that can be controlled by your phone, or better yet, by your partners phone!

 

Yea that’s right, you can be halfway around the world and change the vibration intensities, patterns, and frequencies in real time on her vibrator, while she is using it!

 

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Picture this ladies, your having hot phone sex with your man and  you start rubbing a vibrator all over your clit. As you get worked up, you tell him exactly how you want it…

 

With a swipe of his finger he can adjust and change the vibes to match what you’re telling him!

 

Faster, stronger, harder, pulse, or constant vibes… Your wish is his command!

 

sync quiet vibrator

 

You control the position and he controls the rest! Its super-hot virtual sex!

 

Give him a show of what he is doing by simply having a laptop set up via Skype.

 

He can literally control your orgasm and watch the results of his finger magic in real time!

 

Here is a list of the best phone-controlled vibrators:

 

We-Vibe Rave: This is a super powerful g-spot vibrator, designed for the most intense orgasms imaginable!

 

 

Sync: This inserts vaginally for strong g-spot pleasure but wraps around for great clitoral stimulation as well! Designed for during couples use, but incredible for blended orgasms all by herself!

 

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Touch: Simple clitoral vibrator that is designed with a soft tip and firm edges. She doesn’t stand a chance… The Touch will have her moaning in mere minutes.

 

we vibe touch

 

Ditto: This is an orgasmic anal sex toy that is controlled by his or her phone! Slide it in and vibe to intense backside pleasure!

 

 

 

Phone sex tips

 

Sometimes the words are hard to come by. You’ve talked about your fantasy, how hot you think they are, and no what?

 

How do I make phone sex better?

 

What sets awkward phone sex apart from jaw dropping, life-changing phone sex?

 

Follow these phone sex tips to make it even better!

 

The Setting

 

The setting is especially important if you are adding video sex, but even if you aren’t you should eliminate distractions and set the mood some.

 

womanizer duo in the bath

 

If your FB messages keep pinging you, or the dog keeps barking to get let out, it can be a buzz kill for both of you!

 

The distractions take you out of the zone and your partner will be able to tell your just not into it.

 

So, flip your phone into do not disturb mode.

 

Clean your room some.

 

Set up a comfortable temperature.

 

Make sure the sex toys are charged and within reach. That goes for the lube too!

 

Light the candles and dim the lights if you want to get really fancy with it.

 

Have kids? Make sure the doors locked and they are occupied for a good hour.

 

Don’t let the simple distractions ruin your incredible phone sex!

 

Bring Up A Previous Sexual Situation

 

At a loss for words? Don’t panic, naturally some longer pauses will occur.

 

During these pauses, having a “go-to” idea is always helpful.

 

Try bringing up a previous sexual situation you had with your partner!

 

kiss in rain

 

“Remember in Cancun when we were up all night fucking like animals, and were completely exhausted the next day?”

 

“Remember when we started fooling around in the back room of that party?”

 

“I can’t wait to go camping again with you, we had that tent shaking!”

 

Bring up the situation, and let your partner help fill in the details. Talk about the foreplay, the sex, and exactly how you climaxed. How did it feel? What were you thinking about? What did the two of you do after it?

 

By you both contributing to the story, you can recall how hot it was and make your own personal erotic story!

 

Ask Questions

 

Want to get inside your partners head? Get them turned on and understand exactly what gets them off?

 

This is how you become closer to them while also understanding what makes them “tick” in the bedroom!

 

Ask questions and listen in detail to the responses. Ask even more questions related to the response to dive even deeper.

 

For example:

 

Him: “What’s your favorite way to cum when we do it?”

 

Her: “I love being on top of you and finishing that way”

 

Him (follow up question): “Why do you like being on top so much?”

 

Her: I love being in control of the speed, angle, and depth of your rock-hard cock sliding in and out of me. I can grind on it, rubbing my clit up and down you to an intense orgasm.

 

Him (follow up once more): What does the orgasm feel like from that?

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You get the idea… Asking follow up questions allow the two of you to get more detail. She might then respond and ask you; how do you like to get off the best and you can repeat the whole process.

 

Questions are a great way to fill empty space, but remember you have to contribute as well. It’s not sexy to be grilled with a million questions, but some that allow you to open up and can be a great way to heat up the phone sex!

 

Bring Out The Sex Toys!

 

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If you’re planning to touch yourself during phone sex, like most people do, make it insanely pleasurable by using a sex toy!

 

The shear fact your partner knows what you are using on yourself with be a huge turn on for them too.

 

If she says “I’m fingering myself” he might think that’s nice…

 

But if she says “I have my g-spot vibrator on the highest setting and I’m thrusting it in which has me so freaking wet right now!” he is going to remember that till the day he dies!

 

What are the best vibrators for phone sex?

 

You should be using something quiet. A super loud vibrator can be distracting to both of you on the phone.

 

Here is a list of the most quiet vibrators made.

 

Make sure you have a good water-based lube that wont stain the sheets or clothes.

 

Finger vibrators, small dildos, or clitoral stimulators offer the best views if you plan on having the 2-way video going as well.

 

Hot Octopuss Digit

 

Here is a list of the best finger vibrators on the market.

 

Lastly, textured vibrators or dildos work wonders as well. He or she gets to watch the ribbed shaft glide in and out. This rippling effect will allow them to witness the exact moments of pure pleasure.

 

Don’t forget about anal sex toys too!

 

Slide a sexy butt plug in and let your partner know it’s there! Tell them how good it feels and how you cannot wait to experience an explosive orgasm with in in!

 

The entire time you’re on the phone that’s all they are going to be able to think about!

 

What about for the guys?

 

Don’t worry guys, we didn’t leave you hanging!

 

The 3 best sex toys for men to use during phone sex is a masturbation sleeve, prostate toy, or cock ring.

 

A masturbation sleeve replicates the exact feel of penetration with a partner. Some allow you to adjust how hard the suction is and offer many forms of texture inside. Taking your cock on a pleasurable journey from the tip to the base!

 

Flip ORB Blue

 

Here’s a list of the best masturbation sleeves for men!

 

Prostate toys are butt plugs for men that are designed for one thing… The ultimate male orgasm! A prostate orgasm is said to be 33% more intense than a standard orgasm. So yea, why not experience that on the phone with your partner?!

 

Duke Fun Factory

 

Here’s a list of the best prostate toys for men!

 

Lastly, guys can use a cock ring for a boost in stimulation during masturbation. A cock ring is really designed to be worn during sex, but it adds a completely different sensation to masturbation too!

 

Sliding the cock ring to the base of his shaft will cause him to stay harder for longer and provide a much more intense orgasms when he climaxes. Most cock rings also vibrate which gives his cock a unique and pleasurable sensation.

 

Rianne S Cock Ring, quiet vibrator

 

Click here if you want to know more about cock rings and exactly how to use them for the best sex and masturbation of your life!

 

How To Climax During Phone Sex

 

What’s the best way to climax during phone sex?

 

It’s 100% up to you! That’s the beauty of phone sex, its basically a super hot masturbation session with your partner.

 

If you want to climax with a sex toy, using an anal sex toy, or even your hand… It’s your show!

 

The main thing is communicate to your partner how you plan to climax during phone sex. Let them know exactly what you’re doing to yourself that is going to bring the orgasm on.

 

Make sure they are built up and ready to climax soon too. If they’re not ready, try to hold off.

 

You don’t have to climax at literally the exact same moment, but if you can time it out with in a couple of minutes it works out best.

 

If you orgasm first, don’t leave your partner hanging. Keep talking to them, tell them how the orgasm felt, how it gave you chills down your spine, your eyes rolled back with pleasure, and your entire body was left in a state of shock.

 

Help them feel what you did.

 

Tell them how you imagined them as you climaxed. How you pictured them bringing you that full body orgasmic experience.

 

Lastly, explain how you want to do it the next time. Explain how you want to cum the next time your together in person.

 

Don’t Rush

 

The best phone sex can be a lot of things, but typically not a “quickie”.

 

The build-up, foreplay, anticipation, and working up to that explosive orgasm takes time.

 

While you might have a super pleasurable sex toy that can get you off in seconds, the point is you leave time to tease and build your partner up as well.

 

If you want to masturbate and get off quick, do that. But you don’t need your partner there for that release. The point of phone sex is to build that communication bond stronger with your partner. This takes time!

 

Be You

 

You don’t need to put on your “sexy voice” or wear a different hat so to speak.

This is a common mistake.

 

Your partner wouldn’t have called if they didn’t want to talk to YOU.

 

So, just BE YOU!

 

Speak what comes to mind, don’t worry about being to vulgar, this is phone sex after all.

 

Feed off your partner, if they are a bit shy at first, take things slower to start. You can get a good judgement on how they respond and talk to help understand how extreme you should be going.

 

Your partner wants YOU, this should be the easiest part of phone sex!

 

Focus

 

The conversation can start light and doesn’t need to jump right into serious phone sex.

 

Talk about your day or ask them how work went.

 

Work your way into the sex situations with comments like:

 

“What color are your panties today?”

 

“I was thinking about the last time we were together….”

 

“I’m pretty turned on right now, will you help me with that?”

 

Now that you’ve started the sexy phone talk, its critical your focus stays on your partner and the conversation.

 

Don’t start doing dishes, laundry, cleaning up…

 

Focus on the words, relax, find a comfortable spot, and soak it all in!

 

Phone Sex Examples:

 

What are some sexy phone games I can play with my partner?

 

If you’re at a loss for words, or perhaps you’ve had a lot of phone sex and looking for something new to try, give these sexy games a try!

 

Here is one more sexy trick you can have up your sleeve!

 

Yes/No/Maybe List

 

The Yes/No/Maybe game is one of my favorites!

 

It often starts with “would you ever try…”

 

They answer with a simple yes, no, or maybe.

 

This is just a game, it doesn’t have to be something you want to do or even try, but of course those will be the first that come to mind.

 

This gives great insight into what you and your partners limits are. This can land you on the same page in the bedroom and help connect on new pleasurable heights!

 

Make it Foreplay

 

Phone sex doesn’t always have to lead to climax. Especially if you have the ability to physically see your partner later that day.

 

Use it as foreplay! Same as sending sexy texts to your partner throughout the day, power all that into a short 10 minute phone call.

 

This can lead to the hottest sex of your life later that day. It will have you and your partner pondering the intense sex all… day… long!

 

Describe your fantasy locations

 

Where would be the hottest place on earth to have sex?

 

Would it be in a large penthouse with floor to ceiling windows, giving everyone in the city a show they’ll never forget?

 

Or

 

Would it be on an exotic island in the South Pacific under the perfect palm tree?

 

waterproof vibrators

 

Think about sexy fun locations you’d like to have sex and describe that to them!

 

Explain the weather outside, how your feeling, what you would be wearing, how long the sex would last…

 

Explain Exactly What You’re Doing

 

This is a fun phone sex game!

 

Explain exactly what you’re doing to yourself!

 

It’s the ultimate tease. They can hear the pleasure in your voice. Tell them how your slowly running your fingers up your inner thigh.

 

Tell them how you lathered yourself in lube and reaching for that sex toy.

 

Talk calm, slow, and build the anticipation.

 

Its about physically describing what your doing but then describe how it makes you feel.

 

For example; “I’m using my index finger to slowly caress my wet vagina, It feels incredible. Causing a chill down my spine to my curling toes.”

 

Tell Them Exactly What to Do

 

Seriously hot phone sex can have a bit of dom/sub thrown in there.

 

Tell your partner exactly what you want them to do.

 

This is a huge turn on for you, knowing your partner is going to listen to every word you say. But also a turn on for them having to submit to your every desire.

 

This is a sexy, fun, and easy game to work through.

 

For example: “I want you to take your left hand and glide from the tip of your shaft all way to the base. Make sure you have a tight grip and I want you to twist your hand as your stroking up and down. Now with your right hand I want you to massage your well lubed perineum.”

 

Follow The Leader

 

Have your partner do exactly what you do.

 

This one can be a little more difficult if you’re your partner is of the opposite sex, however still do-able. Just need a bit of creativity or rules to lay down first.

 

A stroke of the shaft = a vibrator thrust (you make the rules ahead of time).

 

Now explain in great detail what position you’re in, what your thinking about, how your hands are moving, and what sensation your feeling.

 

Then your partner on the other end of the line has to mimic it!

 

Feel free to trade off who is the leader.

 

Tell Them What You Love / Miss About Their Body

 

A simple compliment can go a long way!

 

Phone sex can start with just talking about what you miss about them.

 

It doesn’t always have to be kinky, it can start with things like their smile, laugh, or the way they treat you.

 

This is perfect foreplay into the more sexual things you miss.

 

Such as the way her butt looks and feels or how great she is with her tongue during oral.

 

You know them intimately, let them know just how bad you want it!

 

Remember to spread the love! Share this blog with “@diskretadultlife” on any major social media platform (FB,IG, Twitter) and we will pick a winner each month to win a free orgasmic sex toy to use while having hot phone sex!

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