By: Jessica & Lee Founders of Diskret_Adult_Life (Premature Ejaculation)
Its time to face the facts on premature ejaculation.
While its very common and nothing to be ashamed of, most men ignore it or don’t want to talk about it.
Guys, this is the worst approach possible!
It can be anywhere from a nuisance to destroy your life; and everywhere in-between.
Premature ejaculation can affect your mood, health, confidence, mindset, and above all your relationships.
It’s important to understand what it is, who has it, and how to cure it.
According to a recent study by everdayhealth premature ejaculation is considered the most common type of male sexual dysfunction in men under 55. Doctors estimate between 33% of all men experience premature ejaculation at some point.
Men living with premature ejaculation face a great deal of emotional turmoil. Living in distress, embarrassment, and lack of control.
Its time to understand exactly what P.E. is, how to treat it, and above all cure it. While I am not a doctor, I will show you some of the best techniques and methods in the bedroom to STOP premature ejaculation forever. I have been in the sex industry long enough to not only see all the cases but help men like you cure them.
My main focus is to show you ways to please your partner without the use of medication, therapy, and long doctor visits.
If you use my techniques and methods but continue to have problems, I will show you the top medication to help treat it as well. But the combination of medication and my methods produce insane results.
So, whether you want to try something before taking pills, or are already taking the pills but they don’t work; mastering my techniques will help solve all your bedroom problems!
I have helped hundreds of men spark that fire back in the bedroom, satisfy their partner like never before, and shown them the tools and techniques to last longer than ever.
So, If you want to know how to last longer in bed, give your partner mind-blowing orgasms like never before, and live a long healthy sexual lifestyle… You’ve come to the right place!
Premature ejaculation meaning:
What is premature ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is the release of semen sooner than a man or his partner would like during sexual intercourse.
There is no set time limit for satisfying your partner, that would “qualify” you as suffering from premature ejaculation. It is simply based on what you and your partner require to remain sexually satisfied.
However, I can tell you according to research studies women believe 13-20 minutes is considered adequate to get the job done and become satisfied.
But in reality; on average couples only last 5.8 minutes! What a shame… This is mainly due to the man orgasming before the woman. Hence, premature ejaculation.
The penis is biologically designed to not feel good thrusting after climax, often leading to no longer remaining erect after orgasming. So how do I still satisfy her?!
P.E. can be frustrating if it makes sex less enjoyable and impacts your relationship and love life.
In the U.S. alone about 1 out of every 3 men between the ages of 18 to 55 have problems with P.E.
While most think the problem is just psychological, biology may play a large factor as well.
How Does P.E. Work?
Ejaculation is controlled by the mans central nervous system. When men are sexually stimulated, signals are sent to his spinal cord and brain.
Giving him one hell of a release!
When you reach that pinnacle moment of excitement, signals are sent from your brain to your genitals. This causes semen to be released through your shaft.
Ejaculation is broken into two phases; emission and expulsion.
Emission is when the sperm moves from testicles to the prostate and mixes with the seminal fluid.
Expulsion is when the muscles at the base of your penis contract. This forces the semen out during climax.
Premature Ejaculation Causes:
Before we get into how to cure premature ejaculation, we need to understand what causes it.
Biologically speaking, the exact cause of P.E. is not known, but serotonin may play a big role in it. Serotonin is a natural substance made by nerves. Lower amounts of it in the brain have a direct correlation with premature ejaculation. If you have higher levels of serotonin you typically last longer in bed.
Mental health can play a large role in P.E. as well. Here are some of the most common causes of premature ejaculation from mental stressors:
- Temporary Depression
- Unrealistic Expectations In The Bedroom
- History Of Sexual Repression
- Overall Lack Of Confidence
- Relationship Problems
- Sexual Anticipation
- Built Up Sexual Tension
Premature ejaculation can happen at any age. There is no direct correlation between how old you are and when you experience it, despite the common misconception it happens when you’re younger.
For older men, the feeling before ejaculation might get shorter. Erections might not last as long, and the change in how your body responds to a climax as you age can naturally lead to P.E.
The Effects of P.E.
The severity of premature ejaculation will determine how much it effects your lifestyle.
For some men it’s a minor nuisance that pops up once in a while. But for some guys it’s a daily struggle that can rip apart their life.
While we sometimes joke about it with friends, dealing with P.E. no matter the severity is no joke. It can make you lose closeness with your sexual partner or loved one. Making you feel distant both inside and outside the bedroom.
P.E. can leave you feeling exhausted, fed up, angry, ashamed, and even turn you against your partner. While you know its not your fault and you cant control it, this frustration can lead to inherently pushing your partner away.
It doesn’t only affect you; PE can cause your partner to feel less connected, hurt, and distant.
This is why its important we help your situation!
I want to help you minimize if not cure you’re PE all together.
Even if we don’t “cure” your premature ejaculation, I am sure through using my methods you can feel more confident in the bedroom, last longer, and leave your partner sexually satisfied.
It’s time to feel that bond with your partner like never before. Nothing is sexier than watching her climax time and time again all at your own hand, cock, or toy.
So, lets focus on not only managing your premature ejaculation but destroying it once and for all!
Managing Premature Ejaculation Naturally:
I highly recommend you try these self-treatment methods and techniques to solving your premature ejaculation before moving to drugs.
If you already take medication, these techniques will only help you even more.
But I get it… We don’t really want to talk to our doctor about P.E. and start taking daily drugs for it. I’m with you. However, if you try all these technique and methods and are still not satisfied you should talk to your doctor.
We can help a lot, but ultimately if a conversation with your doctor can restore your love life or mend a relationship, it is well worth it.
Communication With Your Partner is Key:
The first part to managing your premature ejaculation is communication.
Did I just say the “C” word?
Yes, and you need to get over it.
If you want things to work well with your partner you should always be communicating in the bedroom. Not just about specific sexual acts, positions, and techniques. But the elephant in the room, your P.E. should be talked about!
How the hell do I bring that up?
Here is what I’ve done in the past and it seemed to transition fairly smooth. However, you know your partner best and how to bring this up will be slightly unique for each of you.
I was in a fairly new relationship and it was only our second or third time having sex. The nerves were still there, the sexual tension was high, and my confidence wasn’t the best.
Well I came after about 10 thrusts into her and was embarrassed to say the least. I made light of the situation saying something like “well that was quick, I’m surprised you held up for that long” or something to that affect.
She smirked, but I could tell she was left disappointed. I then mentioned how that happens to me sometimes and how common it is among all men.
I explained how I can still satisfy her if I do cum to early. How we can both end sexually satisfied, and specific techniques we can try to make me last longer.
I explained how I didn’t want to leave her “hanging” meaning I came but she didn’t.
Together you can solve the problem. Openly talking about it takes that awkwardness away the next time it happens and lets you both relax.
Relaxing is the most important step, worrying about your sexual performance only makes premature ejaculation worse!
Relax, Its Only P.E.
A major step in managing your P.E. is relaxing about it.
Nerves and stress is a huge factor when it comes to premature ejaculation. Constantly worrying about it is not a management tool, its actually making it worse!
Communicating about it is key. This is the first step to relaxing. You and your partner know it’s a possibility and can take the right steps in managing it naturally.
If premature ejaculation does occur, I will give you the tools to leave everyone satisfied. That way, you keep your confidence intact and this whole P.E. thing becomes less of problem.
How To Self-treatment Premature Ejaculation:
I am not a doctor nor do I claim to be. But I have helped hundreds of men manage, self-treat, and eliminate their PE all together.
I have years of experience working with the top sex therapists, sexologists, and sex bloggers in the industry. Many help men just like you and I manage or eliminate premature ejaculation through natural self-treatment.
You would be surprised at the drastic effect these methods can have on your sex life!
Let’s start with the most common methods to treat P.E.
Orgasm Control- Squeeze Method:
You are the master of your own orgasm!
Its time to take control of your orgasm.
Just exactly how can I do that?
The main method used to control your orgasm and help delay premature ejaculation is called the “squeeze method”.
This is where you or a partner stimulates your penis. You continue to stimulate it until just before you orgasm, then you squeeze your shaft firmly. This squeeze allows you to remain semi-turned on but doesn’t overstimulate you to the point of climax.
Once you relax a bit, start stimulating your shaft again, and squeeze when you’re about to orgasm again. Continue to do this over and over, about 3 separate times.
It not only allows your mind to understand when you’re about to orgasm, it helps train you to relax, stop, and calm down before you climax.
In the bedroom you can then thrust away until you feel the climax coming on. When you are near your premature ejaculation you can stop and take a break before starting back up again.
This helps train your body and mind to last longer in bed and satisfy your partner like never before!
Pro Tip: Masturbation seems to be the best time to practice this method, and a masturbation sleeve works the best for it. However, if you are very open with your partner about P.E. let them use this method on you, it will be a big turn on for them as well.
The best way to understand your orgasm and control it is through practice!
Your homework assignment is to get the a really good masturbation sleeve and start whacking off with it. This is the easiest homework you’ve ever been told to do!
A good masturbation sleeve will feel as good, if not better than the real thing! Some you can adjust the suction on to really ramp up the stimulation. If you can train yourself to last with one of these, well… You’ll be able to go all night with her then!
My favorite masturbation sleeve for this is either the Turbo fleshlight or the Vibrating Flip Zero Black. These can create mind-blowing stimulation that make even the pros only last a few minutes unless trained properly.
Check out the vibrating one for even more extreme pleasure!
Might be best to communicate this one to your partner. Explain you’re worried about premature ejaculation and you would like to masturbate a few hours before you decided to do it with them.
This way your body has already had a sexual release and you’ll be able to last longer with them. It does take some understanding of your own body to time this out right, but masturbating before can be a huge help.
Let your partner know you want that release early on to be able to last longer with them and maybe they will even give you a hand with the early masturbation session too!
This can also be a good time to use the masturbation sleeve if you want to overstimulate then relax for a bit before overstimulating with your partner.
Pelvic Floor Exercises:
Same as a women might do kegel exercises to strengthen her vaginal muscles, men can do these to help delay ejaculation:
Find Them: To identify your pelvic floor muscles, stop urination in midstream or tighten the muscles that keep you from passing gas. These maneuvers use your pelvic floor muscles. Once you’ve identified your pelvic floor muscles, you can do the exercises in any position, although you might find it easier to do them lying down at first.
Perfect your technique: Tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for three seconds, and then relax for three seconds. Try it a few times in a row. When your muscles get stronger, try doing Kegel exercises while sitting, standing or walking.
Focus: Maintain your focus. For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises.
Repeat 3 times a day. Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day.
One of the best possible ways to self-treat premature ejaculation is to make the situation with your partner fit your own situation.
If you don’t last long in bed… That’s okay! Make the situation so you don’t need to last long.
For example, one time I started texting my girlfriend early in the morning. Letting her know how bad I wanted it. Getting her thinking about sex all day long. I sexted her more and more throughout the day.
Then I set up the apartment with her favorite candles, drawing a warm bath and cracking a bottle of her favorite wine.
After her bath I rubbed her body in a long sensual massage. Then when she was extremely relaxed, I turned on this finger vibrator. I continued massage her body as I slowly worked the vibrator over her clitoris.
I got her near climax and backed off about 3 times before she couldn’t take it any longer. She wanted me in her so bad.
So, I finally penetrated her for about 80 seconds before she boiled over the top in the most intense, full body orgasm of her life.
Good think it only took me 80 seconds of thrusting because I didn’t last long after she came.
But we were both left sexually satisfied and closer than ever before.
You see; if you build sexual tension and stimulate her long before you penetrate her, you don’t need very long to satisfy her. Once she was satisfied, she doesn’t care how long I lasted!
Use A Sex Toy!
The best way to satisfy your partner without the risk of premature ejaculation is by using a sex toy.
You can use vibrators, dildos, anal beads, butt plugs, or ben wa balls to satisfy her. Or a cock ring to satisfy him.
Use a sex toy to build them so close to orgasm it only takes you a few thrusts to send them over the top, or use a sex toy on them after you’ve climaxed to finish them off. Nobody should be left sexually frustrated!
Cock rings are a single band that wraps around the base of your shaft. These are amazing for any man who suffers from premature ejaculation!
They are a sex toy originally designed to help stimulate her during penetrative sex. She doesn’t need to know it’s also helping you in the process!
When blood flows into penis making it erect, the cock ring helps keep it in. This makes you harder than ever before, last longer than ever before, and your orgasms become very intense!
Not to mention stimulating her clit in the process!
Here is the ultimate guide on cock rings if you’re interested.
Want to satisfy your partner while receiving next to no actual stimulation, yet still penetrate them?!
It’s a tall task.
But penis extenders and penis sleeves allow you to do exactly that.
Think of a very thick condom that has texture to satisfy your partner, length for deep penetration, and additional girth.
Yes, in a matter of seconds you can add 2 inches in length, 2 inches in diameter, and add satisfy texture to your cock!
But the best part about it… you feel next to nothing while penetrating with it on. This allows you to stay hard and penetrate until your heart desires! Without the use of pills or medication.
When you’re ready to cum, simply slide the penis sleeve off and start using your own cock for direct stimulation.
Want the penis sleeve but with some stimulation? There are specific ones that leave your sensitive tip still exposed. These allow you to feel some good stimulation without the whole thing!
Solutions To Premature Ejaculation
If you’ve tried the self-treatment forms above but need even more. You can supplement with medication. Below are some of the most popular forms of medication for premature ejaculation.
Many medications might delay orgasm. Although none of these drugs are specifically approved by the Food and Drug Administration to treat premature ejaculation, some are used for this purpose, including antidepressants, analgesics and phosphodiesterase-5 inhibitors. These medications might be prescribed for either on-demand or daily use, and might be prescribed alone or in combination with other treatments
Becoming extremely popular among men, wipes can help numb and delay your ejaculation.
These wipes like a condom come in a simple rip and tear package to make things simple.
We have no association with them, but the most popular ones right now are getroman. Here is a link if interested.
Want to try an at home remedy first? While none of these are “doctor approved” I’ve seen some decent results and reviews around these.
Zinc not only supports healthy immunity and cell growth, the essential mineral also helps produce testosterone as well as boost your libido and energy. Research has found a linkTrusted Source between zinc deficiency and sexual dysfunction in men, so taking 11 milligrams of zinc per day — the recommended amount — may improve ejaculation time.
Chinese home remedy:
A weekly or daily dose of Chinese herbal medicine — in particular, Yimusake tablets or Qilin pills — may treat premature ejaculation by boosting sexual stamina and improving energy. That same Sexual Medicine study found that different types of Chinese herbal medicine can increase ejaculation time by about two minutes.
How to prevent premature ejaculation Conclusion
There is no excuse for letting premature ejaculation ruin your life and relationship. There are many ways to at least try curing it.
While it might not make you a god in the bedroom and last as long as you want then cum on demand, you do have options.
You can try extended foreplay, techniques, sex toys, medication, and natural treatments.
Premature ejaculation happens to 1 in 3 guys, its nothing to be ashamed of and should be communicated openly with your partner.
Let them know it happens and to what degree. Work together to come to a solution that leaves you both sexually satisfied without compromising your confidence.
So, if you want to last longer in bed and give her powerful orgasms time and time again, make a plan and stick to it.
Take control of your orgasm once and for all!
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