Strap on Pegging!

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By Lee & Jessica, Owners of DiskretAdultLife, September 21st, 2018

Everyone has heard whispers of pegging among friends, but what exactly is it? You might recall some mainstream movies and documentaries that have brief pegging scene’s such as Deadpool, Broad City, Marco Polo, or Weeds. It has become a topic of discussion lately and for good reason!

In this article we have pulled together some great resources and testimonies of actual men and women who participate in pegging. We explain everything you need to know about anal play and pegging. Then we will share with you why these men and women love or hate pegging so much, and how to participate in it yourself. Pegging is not an easy thing to jump right into especially for beginners, so we will guide you through all the necessary steps to participate in pegging a safe and pleasurable way.

What is Pegging:

Being in the sex toy industry we get asked a lot of the same questions from our customers, one of those being “what is pegging”. The actual word “pegging” is a fairly new word that was coined originally from Dan Savage “Savage Love” sex column that appears weekly in several dozen newspapers throughout the US.dirty talk, couples, foreplay

Pegging is the sexual act of a female using a strap on to penetrate her mans anus. The fact that the word “pegging” is new, does not mean people weren’t engaging in the act. Individuals were preforming pegging in porn scenes as early as 1970. It has become increasingly more popular throughout the last decade, so much it got coined the name and started appearing in a lot of modern documentaries and films.

Anal Play 101:

Before we get into all the sexy details of pegging, here is a brief overview of more popular anal play and how it can lead into pegging. If you have never engaged in pegging, you may want to start with something a little more basic in the anal play category, but that should always be communicated with your partner first.

  • Anal sex:

It sounds silly, but if the guy enjoys having anal sex with his woman, he might be up for giving it a try himself. If you’re already engaging in anal sex with your partner, it will be an easier transition into the pegging community. It means your man isn’t afraid of anal play, and neither are you. Try hinting to your partner that you may want to reverse roles.

  • Butt Plugs

Butt plugs are a great way to ease yourself into the anal play community. Start with a small plug and lots of lube, but you can read everything you need to know on butt plugs here. If your man loves butt plugs, chances are he may want to try a dildo.

If he is up for a dildo, then nothing is sexier than you wearing that dildo during the act. Check out a strap on dildo that will pleasure you, at the same time your penetrating him.

Much like butt plugs, anal beads are great for beginners easing into the anal play world. Why is this? Because almost all anal beads start with a small bead on one end and gradually work their way up in size.

This means you can start super small and work your way up in each size, slowly stretching the anus. This makes taking on a dildo much less daunting and you can go at your own pace.  Once you or your partner feel comfortable with the larger beads and enjoy the pleasure they bring, you might be more open to pegging.

  • Anal Lube

This one might go without saying, but anal lube is extremely important. Not just with pegging but with all anal play acts, male or female. The anus on both men and women do not produce a naturcoconut oil as lubeal lubrication, this is why it’s extremely important to use loads of lube while preforming any anal play.

We suggest a natural water-based lube, these will not react or break down silicone sex toys or latex condoms. They are also less likely to react with sensitive skin. Just remember they don’t last long in the water environment. If you plan on pegging or any anal play in the tub or shower, use an oil-based lube that will last longer. However, you can’t use oil-based lubes with condoms.

Pegging for Beginners:

If you are new to pegging, it all starts with communication. When we asked women who have engaged in pegging before; who brought up the idea of pegging first, you or him? It was brought up by the male 67% of the time. Now that doesn’t mean the woman shouldn’t be forth coming on her idea, a lot of men may not have ever entertained the idea or are too shy to bring it up.

If the man enjoys anal play with butt plugs or anal beads, it should be an easy transition into asking if he is up for even more. But I would not surprise him with a strap on one day, it may be a bit overwhelming at first.

The key to pegging is mostly in the preparation. He should use the bathroom and shower before anal play to keep things extra clean. This will give him peace of mind and feel more relaxed. Make sure the man is calm and very turned on to start. Foreplay is key here! Once the man is extremely turned on, start with lubing your finger and inserting it in his anus. You can use a smaller butt plug or anal bead in substitute of your finger if you wish.

This will help loosen him up. It will get lube in and around his anus plus starting small will associate the anus with pleasure before stretching it out with something larger like a strap on dildo.

Tools for Pegging:

For every job, tools are an important part of the game. Here at Diskret, we never try to sell products we don’t believe in. We have been a part of this industry for a long time and simply are recommending what we found to work best. With that we give you the link to where we found it cheapest. By no means do you have to stick with what we recommend in order to engage in pegging.

  • Oil-based Anal Lube:

The first thing you need is a great lube. If you plan on pegging in a water environment, you should start with an oil-based lube. These last long in the water, or in the bed. A great lube is coconut oil and it might already be readily available in your kitchen. Another great lube for anal sex is the oil-based coco lube.

  • Water-based Anal Lube:

If you know you won’t be in a water environment, we suggest starting with a water-based lube. These are less sensitive on the skin and work great with all anal sex toys. A more natural water-based lube we love for anal play can be found here.

  • Strap-On For Pegging:

The next thing you will need is a strap on dildo! You can’t engage in pegging without one. So, what’s our favorite strap on dildo for pegging?! There is no strap on dildo made specifically for pegging. A strap on is a strap on so if it is advertised for lesbians, it really doesn’t matter. We highly recommend Wet For Her hands free harnesses and dildos.hands free pegging harness

They make a great strap on that feels more like spandex underwear than the uncomfortable straps and belts that can dig into your hips and side. The “hands free” also allows you to slide a dildo into the spandex underwear. If this is your first time pegging, you will have some difficulty knowing where the dildo is and where it is in relation to his anus. Most likely you will need to use your hands, and that’s okay. Use your hands to find his anus and the tip of the dildo, then slowly guide the tip in. Most of the single dildos by “wet for her” have vibrating nub on the other end of the dildo to please you while you peg him!

They also make double dildos. These double dildo for peggingdouble dildos will give you a little more control since you have short dildo in you, and that is connected to a longer dildo that can be inserted in him. Once you use this style enough times, you will have a great feel for where the extended dildo is just by the feel of the shorter one in yourself. Not to mention, while pegging him, it will give you intense pleasure as well!

  • Anal Sex Toy:

If you are not planning on using your finger to warm him up first, you might want to consider an anal sex toy. Something small for him, just to start associating the anal play with pleasure before starting to peg him. We highly recommend the smaller P-fun plug by Njoy. It is made to stimulate the prostate and is 100% stainless-steel. This makes it extremely easy to clean.njoy butt plug for pegging warm up

Another anal sex toy to consider warming him up with is an anal bead that starts small and works its way up in size. Something like the Femme Fun which is made for men, and vibrates will really get him going.vibrating anal beads next to a man

  • Anal Play PPE:

Make sure you have the personal protective equipment for anal play. If you prefer to use gloves before inserting a finger in his anus, then get some latex surgical gloves, they will still require proper lubrication before entering. Another thing to consider is laying a towel down before pegging. The oil-based lube can stain the sheets and your clothing.

How to Peg Your Partner:

Here are the main things to consider before pegging your partner:

  • Pegging Communication:

Make sure you and your partner are on the same page. Pegging can bring a ton of intense pleasure if communicated properly. Make sure to communicate if you are in pain or something is uncomfortable. Also, don’t surprise peg him, both should know exactly what is going on and at what pace the dildo will be thrusted at.

  • Pegging with a height Difference:

This might sound silly, but after talking with men and women who engage in pegging one of the main struggles were if there was a big height difference. It can be difficult for women to find the correct angle for penetration and thrusting. If you have a large height difference with your partner, one technique explained to work well was having him lay on his side. With his knees bent, and her kneeling with the front of her thighs against the back of his thighs should work really well.

  • Knowing How to Work Your New Limb During Pegging:

For women, this is like adding a new leg however one you have never used, and can’t feel anything with. It might seem clumsy and difficult at first. Don’t let it distract you, understand it will feel a little silly at first. Just take your time, have fun with it and use your hands to guide it everywhere to start. Once you have full penetration and get a rhythm going you can remove your hand(s) and let your hips do the work.

Is Pegging to Please Men or Women?

Most might automatically assume the pegging is to please the man and is just a lot of work for the women. According to our study this is completely false. To majority of women this was an extreme turn on. “It was fun swapping roles and giving him pleasure. The same way a blow job or hand job turns me on.”

Not to mention if you were to use a double dildo or a dildo that vibrated on your clit it could bring you extreme pleasure and even bring you to orgasm with him. One of the women put it best “Every time I hit his P-spot I could feel all his muscles squeezing around me. It was really intimate and sexy.”

A lot of men get hung up on sexual identity and can’t get past the fact of anal penetrative sex is not a “manly” thing or something. However, men like this will never get to experience the real pleasure that anal play can bring. It is said a P-spot orgasm for men is 33% more intense than a normal orgasm.

In the end, the most important part is you communicate and use lots of lube. Have fun with it, you won’t be experts the first go around. If it feels uncomfortable just swap up positions and keep going. Most of the men and women who engage in pegging do not incorporate it as a regular sex act but something special here and there to change things up. Most women loved to be the penetrator for once and got great pleasure out of it! Have fun pegging and make sure to contact us about your pegging experience for a discount at Diskret!

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