Strapon Pegging: Everything You Need To Start!

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By Mistress Kay of DiskretAdultLife, Jan. 13th, 2019

What is Strapon Pegging?

Welcome to the fun world of strapon pegging! Also known as “Bend Over Boyfriend” and “Strap-on Sex”, strapon pegging is a fun way for two people to experience penetration and intimacy when the biological “equipment” may or may not be there. In strapon pegging, one person uses a fabric strap-on harness to “strap” a dildo onto their body. This strapped-on dildo can then be used to penetrate another person. While the harness-wearer is commonly a vagina-owning person penetrating a penis-owning person anally, that doesn’t have to be the case. Anyone of any biological genitalia can penetrate anyone!

While we’re on the topic of diversity, it’s good to know that not all strapon pegging harnesses must be worn around the hips. While it’s most common to see harnesses worn around the hips (for a more “realistic” penetrative sex session), harnesses exist for many parts of the body including the face, the thighs, the feet, the chest, and more. If a hip-centric harness doesn’t seem appealing for you – don’t worry! There are other options out there. If you can’t find the option you love, don’t forget that you can always DIY your own strap-on harness by playing around with some bondage rope until you find a good fit.

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Why Do People Enjoy Strapon Pegging?

People enjoy strapon pegging for a variety of reasons:

Most commonly, people enjoy it because of the physical sensations. Penetration, regardless of genitals, can be extremely pleasurable for a lot of people. Penetration itself could just be achieved with a hand and some dildos, but a lot of people enjoy the enhanced intimacy, pressure, and sensations involved with having that dildo strapped onto another human being. In some cases, people enjoy it to simulate heterosexual penis-in-vagina sex, but in other cases, strapon pegging can just be used to enjoy the sensation of being close to your partner.

There can also be a power exchange when playing with strapon pegging. While this isn’t necessarily accurate, a lot of people view being the “receptive” partner during penetration as the “submissive” role. This makes it easy to play around with power dynamics in strapon pegging. In heterosexual couples, if the woman is strapping on, it takes the male from the “giver” to the “receiver” – which can definitely be used for humiliation, power exchange, or embarrassment purposes within our societal belief system.

Some people also enjoy strapon pegging for accessibility reasons. Like we’ve mentioned, not all harnesses are designed just for the hips. Instead, some are made for thighs, chests, faces, limbs, and more. If someone has physical limitations that may prevent them from using their hips in a manner that would allow for the “usual” penetration, strapon pegging can be a fantastic way to fill that gap. In particular, thigh harnesses allow for a much-more-comfortable movement if someone has back issues or mobility issues.

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More Penis Power:

On that note, some people choose to play with strapon pegging as a way to allow for more orgasms for both partners. In particular, thigh harnesses can be fantastic for that. The receiving partner still gets to enjoy the sensation of being filled (and penetrated) while the giving partner has full access to their genitals to get themselves off – or allow the receiving partner to touch them as well. Unlike with standard penetration where all of the bits tend to be all in the same spot, using a strapon pegging harness allows for a lot more freedom of movement for more manual stimulation during penetration.

We also shouldn’t neglect the penis-owning individuals who might choose to wear a harness for strapon pegging. There’s can be a variety of reasons for this, too. Some penis-owning individuals may love having an “erection on demand” – with no worries or concerns about always being “up” for the occasion. Other individuals may want to experiment with pleasing their partner with sizes, widths, and designs that are physically unlike their own biological equipment. Some strapon pegging might also be done for threesome and fantasy-fulfillment purposes as well. A penis-owning individual can strap-on a dildo and use their biological penis at the same time – which allows for double penetration fantasies and sensations without bringing another person into the bedroom.

What Do I Need for Strapon Pegging?

Lucky for you, strapon pegging doesn’t require too many items. You just need two basics: a strapon harness and a dildo that’s compatible with that strapon harness.

There’s a lot more finicky details that go into those two items (including choosing ones that work well for your body and your needs), but that’s the basic gist of it. In fact, to make it easier, a lot of manufacturers even sell kits that include both a strap-on harness and a dildo that works with that strap-on harness. It’s easier than ever to start playing with strapon pegging!

While you might be purchasing items for yourself, don’t forget to think about your future partners’ needs. One of the few things about strapon pegging is that your “cock” is fully removable. You can switch out sex toys willy nilly – with no need to stick to “one” type. However, if you’re just getting started, you may not want to invest in a full stable of dildos – which means you need to choose one that works well for what you have in mind right now. This means knowing what size of toys your partner is comfortable with and staying within that size range. You might also ask them if they have any preference on realism and color – as some people have very strong preferences for such a thing during strapon pegging.

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Double the Pleasure:

While most people use “traditional” dildos for strapon pegging, don’t feel like you have to. Some companies make “double-ended dildos” designed for use in strapon pegging. These toys are designed to be double-ended. A small, thicker dildo is designed to slide into the vagina of the “giver” while the longer, standard-dildo-like length is designed to be inserted into the receiver. Depending on the giver’s vaginal muscle strength and the position you’re strapon pegging in, it’s possible to use these toys without a harness. However, for many positions (and to allow the giver’s attention to focus somewhere other than having tight vaginal muscles), using a strapon pegging harness is recommended with these toys. Turns out, trying to hold 3 pounds of silicone in your vagina with muscle strength alone requires a lot of attention for most people.

In addition, don’t forget about some of the accessories you may need. If you plan on enjoying pegging anally, you should definitely have a bottle of lubricant that’s compatible with your strap-on dildo. (Silicone-based lubricant is generally not compatible with silicone material sex toys. Make sure you have a water-based lubricant!) You may also want a lubricant for vaginal use.

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How Do I Engage in Strapon Pegging?

Strapon pegging is surprisingly easy to physically accomplish. It might be harder to get good at it – and feel less awkward about it – but some of the tips below should give you a better start to having more enjoyable sessions.

To actually accomplish strapon pegging, though, it isn’t too difficult. First, the harness needs to be put on. Depending on what type of harness you have – and your preferences – you might prefer to slide the dildo into the harness before putting it onto your body. Some harnesses will easily allow you to switch out dildos while the strap-on harness is on your body, though. We recommend taking the time to try on your strap-on harness a couple times in private before taking it on a full, partnered sex run. Why? Because there can be a lot of buckles and small adjustments on a strap-on harness for a better fit. Not making these adjustments can detract from the experience, but doing these adjustments for the first time can take about 20 minutes as you learn how things move and work. Doing these adjustments before your first scene makes it easier to “pull on and play” when it’s time for the actual scene.

Once you have the dildo and harness strapped onto your body, it’s as simple as lubing up the toy and penetrating the orifice you want to penetrate. Strapon pegging is pretty simple!

How Do I Make Strapon Pegging Better?

Unsurprisingly, if you’re not used to using a strap-on or being the penetrative partner, it can feel a bit awkward and unarousing at first. You may not be used to moving your hips in this particular movement – and you probably aren’t used to having a faux cock strapped onto your waist either! For a lot of reasons, strapon pegging can feel a bit awkward at first – and that’s totally normal.

There are some simple ways to make it better if you’re wearing the faux cock. First, you really need to get used to wearing the cock and how it feels and moves with your body. Like we’ve mentioned before, you may not have been born with a hanging appendage, and this may be a whole new sensation for you. Luckily for you, you can pretty much wear a strap-on harness anytime. You can strap on your harness and dildo and just wear it around the house. Feel how the dildo moves with your body, and get used to – and comfortable – with having a strap-on dildo.

Practice the Penetration:

Once you’ve gotten used to the feel of the strap-on harness on your body, it’s time to practice penetrating. As a good start, you might consider picking up a cheap male masturbation sleeve, lubing it up, and practicing penetrating that sleeve. As you get more comfortable with that sensation, place that sleeve between couch cushions to start getting more of a “realistic” practice. This will allow you to start working on some of the harder parts of strapon pegging.

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Find the Angles:

First off, pay attention to how it feels to try to figure out the “angle” to get inside the sleeve. One of the hardest things can be figuring out how low or high you need to be to make your dildo slip inside of the orifice. From there, practice how to move your hips to slide comfortably and smoothly in and out of the masturbation sleeve. This will also require some practice – and you might find yourself fatigued relatively quickly. You can practice over multiple sessions to slowly build up those not-often-used muscles. In addition, pay attention to how the base of the strap-on harness dildo rubs against your body. If you have a clitoris, with the dildo in a proper position and using various thrusting techniques, you can find some physical pleasure out of the experience. Experiment with different ways to achieve that sensation – to better achieve that pleasure in the future when another human is involved.

You can also help out a bit if you’re on the receiving end of strapon pegging too! There’s no reason that you can’t speak up and help your partner find the “right spots”. Unlike a biological penis, your partner can’t “feel” their strapon, so it can be hard to tell if they’re getting near your entrance or not. Wiggling your body into the right spot, helping your partner insert the dildo, or giving them verbal instructions (especially when the dick accidentally slides out mid-pegging!) can make a huge difference in their enjoyment – and yours.

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