Sex Tips & Advice

The Best Sex Toy For You!


By Mistress Kay of DiskretAdultLife, Jan. 8th, 2019

Is your toy chest overfilled with sex toys that you enjoy – but you don’t really have a “stand-out” favorite? Or are you someone who just wants a few sex toys to your name – but those sex toys need to be the best sex toys out there? Whatever your reasoning, finding the best sex toy for you can definitely be a new experience. You may have purchased sex toys before, but this particular purchase is going to have a new meaning to it. It’s going to be “the best”. It’s going to be the toy to beat all your other toys – and that’s a lot of pressure to put on a single item.

For that reason, you might be more comfortable with your purchase if you give it extra thought. What thoughts? Well, that’s what we’re here for! Consider some of these helpful tips for finding the best sex toy for you:

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Finding the Best Sex Toy: Know Your Pleasure Spots

Before we do anything else, you need to know what pleasure spots exist on your body. It’s going to be near-impossible to pick the best sex toy for you if you don’t know what spots are the best spots for you. Some vagina-owners respond best to g-spot stimulation while others only orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Not all penis-owners enjoy vibrational stimulation on the head while others climax better through full-length stroking. And we can’t forget about anal play! Some people are really into the fun of discreet public play with a butt plug while others are much more into the pleasure of the in-and-out sensation of an anal dildo. It’ll be impossible to figure out what the best sex toy is for you if you don’t know where the pleasure points are on your body. If you respond best to clitoral stimulation but buy an anal toy, is it going to be the best sex toy for you?

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So with that in mind, pay attention during your next masturbation session. What areas feel best? Is it possible that some of your areas respond better to fingers – while others respond better to sex toys? For example, do you find that clitoral vibrators don’t do as much for you as your fingers do, but your g-spot? Well, it LOVES g-spot dildos. Having a general idea about your body’s preferences and needs will give you an idea about what toys to look for when looking for the best sex toy. You don’t want to purchase that “perfect” vaginal toy only to find out that your body isn’t too into vaginal stimulation.

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Once you figure out your most-desired pleasure spots, start thinking about sex toys that can stimulate them. If you’re looking for penis pleasure, that’d leave you a couple of options: cock rings, masturbation sleeves, vibrators, sex dolls, and a few others. Once you know the spot you want to stimulate, you’ll need to investigate the toy types that can pleasure that area – and decide what one sounds best for you.

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Finding the Best Sex Toy: Don’t Rush It

You don’t need to be in any special rush to find the best sex toy for you. In fact, it might be better if you don’t set a timeframe for your purchase. Why? Well, deadlines tend to lead to hurried decisions. You know that when you’re stressed about making a decision on a deadline, it doesn’t leave you a lot of excess time to figure things out or think things through. You’re much more likely to purchase the best washing machine out there when your current machine isn’t broken and leaking all over the kitchen floor, and the same premise applies to sex toys. You aren’t in any rush to find the best sex toy, so don’t treat it like you are.

Sex toys aren’t like most industries; most sex toys aren’t seasonal or only offered temporarily. Unless a company goes out of business, it’s unlikely that most of their products will be discontinued. This is a good thing for you! You don’t need to feel particularly rushed to pick out a sex toy. In most cases, your sex toy will be there weeks later. Make sure to choose a trusted retailer when purchasing it, to insure the highest quality sex toy!

The best suggestion? Save the link to your computer, and visit the toy’s page on a daily basis for a week. Maybe even two. If you’re still as enamored with the toy two weeks later as you were on the first day, it’s very possible it could be the best sex toy for you to order right now. Once the initial excitement over finding the perfect toy wears off, if you still find that you’re enjoying the look and features of that particular toy, it’s likely a good option to try out.

Finding the Best Sex Toy: Think about your Budget

Money matters – but maybe not as much as you’d think. Yes, you should definitely consider your budget – and how much you can afford to spend on your new sex toy. At the same time, don’t forget that it might be worth “saving up” if your perfect sex toy is outside your budget right now. You really should do the math before starting your journey to find the best sex toy.

Let’s say a $100 toy is out of your budget, so you “settle” on a $50 one. The $50 toy comes in the mail, and it’s okay, but you’re not in love with it. This definitely isn’t going to be the best sex toy for you. But it’s okay. Would it have been worth putting off your purchase for a couple of months to get “the best sex toy” for you versus having an okay one? It really depends on your personal needs, whether you have other sex toys already in your bedroom, and your patience. In some cases, it might be worth saving up for a couple more months to have a perfect addition instead of just having another sex toy. If this is your first toy or you genuinely just can’t wait, some people would prefer the “have it now” toy.

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Finding the Best Sex Toy: Consider In-Person Shopping

Just like anything else you might be in the market for (like a laptop, beauty products, or more), there’s something to be said about getting to touch and compare the products in person. You can poke at the differences, see how the item feels in your fingers, and look at the “real-life” size of various products.

The same can be said for sex toys. While it’s a lot harder to find a nearby adult toy store compared to an electronics store, there’s still a lot of benefits to seeking out and visiting a local toy store. While there’s a huge variance in quality between various brick and mortar toy stores out there, some stores will offer demo toys sitting out on counter tops for you to feel. Obviously, you can’t give them a “test drive” in-store, but it does allow you the chance to feel the materials, see if the toy has a scent, see how much power it has (if it vibrates), what the color is, what the size is, and more. You can hold the toy right in your hands – and decide if it feels like it’s a good fit for you.

When it comes to finding the best sex toy for you, this is probably one of the best ways to make sure you’re not wasting your money. You most likely will find a better deal online with your trusted retailer though, so unless you need to have it that second. Go check it out with us first!

Finding the Best Sex Toy: Otherwise, Find Good Online Stores

That being said, not everyone lives near a well-populated area with a sex toy store. Or maybe your local sex toy store isn’t of the highest caliber, and it doesn’t actually offer in-store displays. It may not even sell the beautiful sex toys that you’re interested in buying! Some brick and mortar sex toy stores don’t stock high-quality, silicone toys – and may not even stock brand-name toys! This is unfortunate, but it’s also the reality of the times we live in: it’s not always easy to find a sex-positive place to purchase sex toys in-person.

Luckily, we also live in a time of great online information and global commerce. This means you can still have a great shopping experience finding your best sex toy. You just need to find the right website for you!

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What “the right website” will look like depends on your preferences. In general, you should look for a website that offers a wide range of products and good information on each of their items. Aside from that, it’s up to you. Do you want in-house, unique photos? Do you want a well-populated database of reviews on that individual toy? Are you looking for a website that offers comparison features and lets you easily compare size and features of a wide variety of toys? Maybe you want a website that has quizzes that help you narrow down the right toys for you. Or maybe you want a website that feels luxurious – and makes you feel like royalty every time you visit it. Whatever it is, find a website that works for you, and you can use that to hunt down your best sex toy.

Once you find a great website, you should stick to it. There are a lot of low-quality websites who distribute low quality products in this industry. Just be aware of what you buy is body-safe.

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Finding the Best Sex Toy: Look at the Appearance

Just like everything else, the appearance of your sex toy matters – and your best sex toy is going to look good to you. It’s not enough to just be functional. If it’s the best sex toy for you, it’s going to make you happy every time you look at it. It’s going to have a beautiful appearance that looks amazing to you. What “amazing” looks like is a personal choice, but spend some time daydreaming what your best toy would be.

For some people, that’s going to be a plain design. For others, that might be an adorable animal-like design. For others, it might be a beautifully-colored toy. And yet, for others, their best sex toy might be a custom-ordered silicone toy from one of their favorite dildo manufacturers. Don’t forget to think about the visual appeal of your best sex toy before getting caught up in the functional details of your new purchase.

We hope that this guide gives you a good start to finding the best sex toy for you! It’s not going to be a quick process, and it’s likely going to involve some trial and error, but as you get to know your body and learn what sex toys are available out there, it’ll get easier and easier to pick out items that work perfectly for you. Enjoy the journey, have fun with the sex toys, and delve into the self-exploration required for finding the best sex toy for you!

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